4. Become Your Best Friend
What negative thoughts will do is creep into our subconsciousness, and tell us we’re failures, not good enough, or confident enough to perform a particular task. It’s up to you, to tell where that little voice should go. One way, is to ask yourself if you would talk this way to your partner of friend, all that negative nonsense that you constantly spew to yourself.
Another way, is to distract yourself from this negative self talk, by being mindful in the moment. Force yourself to observe the room that you’re in, and become more aware of your senses and surroundings. Get into a meditative state, where you’re able to redirect your mental energy away from that dark place.
3. Face All Your Fears
There are things in life which appears too difficult to attempt, which makes you doubt yourself. That’s fear. So instead of avoiding it, choose to face it head on and challenge it. The anticipation however when attempting to do so, might feel like torture. But once you do decide to tackle it, the feeling of accomplishment, this from being courageous will raise your confidence, rather than if you avoided it.
This doesn’t mean you need to go skydiving to prove your bravery. Instead, face the smaller challenges you fear, and register them as “wins,” which will elevate your self-esteem and confidence. Even if you don’t succeed the first time, such as mumbling while public speaking, pat yourself on the back for trying, and know you’ll get better with practice.
2. Know Your Strengths And Focus On Them
What many tend to dwell on are things they’re not good at, or areas of their appearance that they don’t like or aren’t happy with. While in this mindset of negativity, what most ignore are their positive features, what they bring to the table. The skills and talents that they have, that others don’t.
Begin by writing out a list of your best assets, such as your experiences, physical and social features, resources, skills and talents, and anything else that makes you feel better about yourself. Realize that you have a variety of complimentary things, that you can offer to the world. Know that you’re competent and dynamic.
1. Who Cares What Others Think Of You
Opinions are free and easy. Everyone has one. So if anyone, someone you know or don’t know, says something to you personally, which somehow deflates your character, then keep in mind that it’s just their opinion, their viewpoint. Realize that there are plenty of others, who are on your side, and are cheering you on.
In a group setting, if you ask 25 people what they think of you, what their opinion of you is, most likely, you’ll get a variety of different answers. The most important opinion about yourself, is your own. Know that you’re doing the best you can, and you can’t control what those who don’t like or know you, thinks of you.