It happens in every society and civilization on earth, to every culture in the world, that a certain group of people for one reason or another, just won’t like you or like each other. This is ingrained in the fabric of our human arrogance.
This when you’re a little different, and all you want is to be accepted, to be more liked.
You put yourself out there trying to make friends, and there’s no one who wants to courtesy you back.
This making you eventually think there’s something wrong with you, and become self conscious as a result.
Some will go through this torment of self doubt, especially during their school years, which continues on as young adults.
All they’re looking for is to be accepted by their peers, to be part of the hip crowd. We all become victims to this pack mentality.
Once you find someone you’re attempting to be friends with doesn’t like you, rejected again, what it does is leaves a dent in your self-esteem.
How Others View Themselves
Those who may have low self-esteem issues, are convinced their peers just don’t like them, even if there’s no real evidence for this belief.
And because of this, these individuals may actually be surrounded by those who genuinely like them, but just don’t realize it.
They are genuinely liked, yet, because they just don’t believe they’re worthy of having their friendship, they become convinced that it’s done out of pity.
So, if you think that nobody likes you, then find some real evidence to justify they don’t, because you may just have a negative perception of yourself.
At times, it’s true some people you meet will actually dislike you, even once you initially make the social overtures and extend your friendship.
There are reasons why certain strains of individuals won’t like you for a variety of reasons.
Some Just Won’t Physically Like You
You may of been born or have moved into a society or culture where the community is extremely tight knit, and they don’t open up to newcomers, someone who appears a little different.
Or you may be surrounded by a group of people who automatically dislikes you because of your particular religion, appearance, ethnicity, especially if you’re a visible minority.
You may be surrounded by those who’ll reject you just because of the clothes you wear, because of those tattoos and nose ring, or you don’t obey to conventional wisdom.
It’s Their Issue Not Yours
It’s been known children and those under the influence of alcohol will always tell the truth, they don’t have a fib filter, and are completely honest in whatever they say, such as “I don’t like you.”
There’s also the polar conformists, who can be extremely cruel to those who are slightly different from the norm.
Sadly, some never grow out of their prejudice when judging others, for their own superficial reasons.
It’s Not Your Fault
Feeling down and negative about yourself, especially when it’s not your fault could potentially activate a downward spiral of self-doubt.
You might also turn your anger outwards into bitterness or revenge towards others.
Realize this isn’t the solution which will win you friends or attract people, or give you peace of mind.
It becomes important just to take a good hard look at yourself, the way you interact with others, and how they see you.
There may be a specific behaviour that’s causing them to dislike you, a behaviour which you can change.
Ways To Alter Your Behaviour To Be More Liked
Ask yourself if you have an issue with any of the following:
• Do you always come across as extremely negative and complain all the time. Most find this behaviour annoying and may avoid you
• Do you actively participate in conversations, or do you keep silently quiet and allow others to do all the talking or start these conversations. If so, then learn on improving your skills, making others be more interested in you
• Do you endlessly talk about yourself while showing little interest in anyone else whom you’re talking with. They’ll just become bored with your narcissistic attitude, once they realize you’re just interested in yourself
• Do you try too hard to please others, always agreeing with everything they say, and never offer any opinions of your own. If you don’t respect yourself, others won’t either
• Do you often say things which will hurt their feelings, and tell them later you were just kidding
• Do you say annoying things which may be considered “mean” behind other people’s backs. After a while, no one will trust you, thinking you’re just an unkind person
Once you decide to change any of these behaviours, others may begin liking your more.
How To Be A Better Friend
If you’re wanting to make friends and be more popular, it becomes important you don’t give up trying.
Continue to approach people who interests you, those you have something in common with, and try striking up a conversation.
Recognize and get rid of all your bad social habits if they’re getting in the way of creating friendship.
If you’re given the cold shoulder by the majority of the people you encounter, then continue to keep looking for those who you can confide in, and be friends with.
Always be working in developing your social skills, appearance, and talents.
Take an inventory of all the good qualities about yourself, so you can transform yourself into new ways to attract people, those who you have mutual respect for.
Continue to actively search out those who’ll like you and accept you for who you are, just be yourself and the friends will be there.