What they doesn’t need or seek is the approval of their parent’s, spouse, or siblings, or to be loved by their children. What they consider them to be are just audience members to watch their arrogance in the theatre which is their inflated grandiosity.
All they want is the focus to be on them, that they’re in charge and wants everyone to know.
What their ultimate wish is to shock them, impress them, threaten them, infuse them with awe, to inspire them to get their attention, or to manipulate them. …