Fight, Flight, or Loving Action

Fight or flight – our automatic response to danger. When fear is present, adrenaline pours into our system to prepare us to fight or flee – from the tiger, the bear, the lava from the volcano.

Fight or flight – today we automatically respond this way to the present dangers, the deep fears that come up in relationships: rejection and engulfment – fears of loss of other and loss of self.

Often, when we feel rejected and fear the loss of the other, we fight for love not to go …