Most of us are born into this world with good health, and share similar attributes. We’re gifted with a logical brain, and a mindful forgiving soul full of gratitude. What it comes down to, are the unique experiences of our lives, that transforms us into who we become, this one day at a time. From these humble beginnings, some become timid or narcissistic, some become derelict or criminal, while a certain few become extraordinary.
Becoming extraordinary isn’t necessarily reserved for those who are privileged, with high IQ’s, the beautiful or the wealthy. Those who become extraordinary are rather molded, they reach their potential. They develop into greatness, even from the most ordinary of beginnings.
They grasp the belief that anything in life is possible. What we can do, is list a number of people who are extraordinary. Those who we admire, such as our sports hero’s, or those who excel in business or entertainment, are the ones that stand out.
They inspire us emotionally, they become our mentors, living examples that achievement in life is possible. They could be a relative, who’s generously helped us believe in our dreams, or friends who’s garnered a wide circle of acceptance, for all to share and admire.
For those who excel in life, there are certain traits that they all share. It’s found that their life pattern, can be narrowed down to a few common denominators. Those who become successful in life, all share these similar identifiable markers.
Their Focus Is On Intent
What our current culture demands, is that we need to accumulate more. More such as in more money, this so we can accumulate more assets, more friends, more things than our peers.
What evolution didn’t promise us, is that getting “more” would make us happier, as even money can go so far. Although there’s less anxiety being rich, wealth also has its detriments, such as affecting the ability to appreciate extraneous values.
Someone who’s extraordinary will tell you, it’s the intrinsic qualities which brings true happiness, things which brings personal growth and emotional intimacy.
Focusing on the extrinsic, such as physical attractiveness, fame, and wealth, can damage ones well-being, resulting in a sense of emptiness.
Those who are extraordinary, avoid joining the crowd. Those who are constantly spinning their wheels, on the hamster wheel of life. Instead, they keep their focus on “being,” rather than “having or getting.”
Show Kindness With Empathy
Any walk of life, regardless of what a person does, what their occupation is, what the world and society does, is honors those who are kind. This to everyone they know, and not just a select few they could benefit from.
We instantly recognize those with ulterior intent, who’s just looking out for No #1, which is themselves. Those with a fake smile, just preying to stab you in the back. Beware however, as karma is watching, and will punish you when you least expect it.
We cherish those who are genuine, which could be the doorman who knows you by name, the employer who celebrates your milestones, those who works feverishly behind the limelight, unrecognized.
We all know, remember, and appreciate people like these, those who are nice. They’re special and stand out, because they have that gift of making others feel important.
The best thing about kindness, is that it can work both ways. What you can always do is return the favor, as it feels even better to extend the courtesy towards someone, without expecting anything back in return.
No One Is Perfect
Those who are extraordinary and stand out, fail more often than you think. They’re the ones who’ll take a risk, put themselves out there, this despite their imperfections. What the ordinary will do, is spend their time waiting for that perfect moment.
What the ordinary wants is to be safe and sure, become immune before doing anything daring. They then lose opportunities and relationships that can’t be recovered, as they squander away their chances.
Those who are extraordinary realize and understand that failure, criticism, and rejection is the price to pay for taking a risk. This for trying, overcoming the fear of stepping out of their comfort zone, knowing that defeat doesn’t always equal unworthiness.
This willingness to become vulnerable, allows them to pursue their dreams while tapping into their creative powers. Adopting this mindset creates the confidence, as they become inspired when giving their best shot.
The Ability To Connect With Others
There have been countless studies based on those who have become successful, that it’s the values that they carry, the ability to connect with others, their fellow man, that stands out.
Those who display extraordinary achievement all understand this simple ability, while the ordinary don’t bother or care. What they do is make others, whomever they may be, a priority.
They care about the welfare of people, constantly asking questions regarding how they’re doing, and genuinely caring about their answers. These are the individuals, who you have respect for, just because they listen to you.
Extraordinary people are also able to connect with themselves, pay attention to their feelings first, while respecting their own needs, before they do so with others.
They Find True Happiness In Life
What the masses will do, is spend their lives searching for happiness, and once they think they find it, they’ll despise it. They temper the joy, feeling that they don’t deserve it somehow, or it won’t last for long, so why bother.
That happiness is taboo, that they’ll be somehow jinxed if they bask in it. That once they get that tingling sensation where their nerves swell with joy, this once they’ve accomplished something or see a loved one, they imagine something bad will happen.
What the extraordinary will do, is treat these same feelings with gratitude. They’re not fooling themselves or anyone else, as they know that happiness can easily come and go. So they’ll just cherish it once it comes their way.
They’re just thankful, that they were worthy enough to of received it, and will pay it forward. What they’ll do, is seek out these moments of joy, cherish them, and feel that they genuinely deserve it.