If you’re in a position of influence, there are certain words that you should be using, to make your point. Make sure that you use these words, when speaking to your significant other, friends or family, employees and colleagues, as well as everyone else including strangers who you come across. If you have a crowd that needs to listen to you, be careful what you say, realize you’re not smarter or better than them.
Always choose and weight the words you speak accordingly, always back up and justify all of your statements. Have valid reasons for all your arguments or decisions. Always be ready to have a reason, for the line of words that you use. Verify everything that you do with sense and logic, and never from a position of authority or arrogance.
When taking the time to explain your decisions, this especially if they’re controversial, what doing so does, is it opens up everything for discussion or criticism. Doing so also improves your personal development.
Words To Say On A Daily Basis
• Always Say You’re Welcome – Think about the last time that you gave a well thought out gift, and the recipient appeared ungrateful and awkward. Their reaction took away from the giving.
On the other hand, once someone Thanks You, or are complimenting or praising you some how, don’t spoil the moment for them. This even if the spotlight makes you feel uneasy, make eye contact and say, “You’re Welcome.” Make it all about the other person.
• Admit You Were Wrong – We all make mistakes and make poor judgement on occasion. So whenever you’re in the wrong, admit it by saying that you were wrong, that you made a mistake.
Then, what happens once you admit to your mistake, is that you’ll earn respect rather than losing it.
• Say That You’re Sorry – No one’s perfect. It’s our ego that stops us from admitting that we made a mistake, and then we attempt to cover it up somehow.
We all have things that we always need to apologize for, which includes our actions, words, omissions, failing to step up or step in. We fail to show support or respect, everything that we should be sorry for.
So the easy fix, is to just say that you’re sorry. Follow up the apology by adding a disclaimer such as, “I was really upset because…” or a statement that places the blame back on you.
Just say that you’re sorry, be genuine and mean it, say why you’re sorry while taking all the blame, that it’s your fault. No less, no more. What you’re doing, is making a fresh start.
• Say To Someone You Are Awesome – No one ever gets the proper or enough praise that they deserve. So choose someone, anyone, who continuously does or did something well, and then say to them, “Wow, that was excellent how you…”
Feel free to go back in time by saying, “It was great how you handled that problem last month…” as doing so can make just as much an impact now, as it would have back then.
Giving out praise is a gift which costs absolutely nothing to the giver, but is priceless for the recipient. So begin praising. Those who are around you will appreciate and love you for it, and you’ll also like yourself more for doing so.
• Let Me Help You – The majority of people think that asking for help, is a sign of weakness. So because of this, most will hesitate to ask for any. But everyone at one time or another, needs a bit of assistance at times.
But avoid saying, “Is there anything that I can help you with?” as what most will instinctively say back to you is “No thanks.”
Instead, be more specific. Find something that you can be helpful with by saying, “I have a few moments, can I help you finish this?” Make your offer in a way that feels more collaborative and not patronizing. Then actually be prepared to help.
• Ask Will You Be Able To Show Me – There’s a saying, “Advice is temporary, but knowledge is forever.” Knowing exactly what to do helps, but knowing precisely how or why, can mean everything.
Once you ask someone to be shown or taught, then several things will happen. What you’re doing, is implicitly showing your respect to that person that’s giving the advice.
You’re showing that you trust their experience, skill, or knowledge, and then make sure you express the value of the advice given. Never ask for their input, but rather ask to be trained, taught, or shown.
• At Times Just Say Nothing – There are times, that the best thing is to just say nothing. This especially if you’re frustrated, upset, or angry. Just let it pass. You may think that venting will make you feel a lot better, but that’s rarely true.
Results will always come and go, but feelings will last forever. Once you criticize someone, especially in a group setting, it may appear that they’ll get over it, but deep inside, the scar remains.
So before you speak, consider how they’ll think and feel before you evaluate whether your decision makes objective sense.
You can recover from a mistake, which is made because of inaccurate or faulty projections, but not from the damage that you inflicted on someones self-esteem.
So make sure, that you remain quiet until you know exactly what you should be saying, and exactly what affect that your words will have.