Absolutely nothing in life lasts forever. Everything eventually breaks, falls apart, separates for one reason or another. The most common is the human bond between two people, known as a relationship. No one ever said two individuals were meant to be together forever.
As for the human species, it’s thought to be genetically improbable, as it’s difficult but not impossible for two people to bond at peace for eternity.
We as people, our brains are predominantly nomadic and meant to roam, and not be with the same person our entire lives.
The mind wanders, it’s only human nature to get bored with one another, and we move on.
In this modern day society, it’s called a breakup, separation, or divorce, as almost everyone eventually gets fed up with one other.
We begin to despise being with that person, and want to be alone or with someone else.
1.) – People Behaving Badly
During high school it was cool to be bad, to be the black sheep, oppose society, in this case our parents, the teachers, and homework.
The majority of us grow up and stop being rebellious, and comply to the unwritten laws of society.
Yet you marry that outlaw dude or party gal, bracing for a life of adventure, but the old behaviour doesn’t stop. They don’t grow out of it, they never mature.
Decades later, they’re still the same person with the same haircut, still attempting to live their glory years. You finally get fed up and leave them.
2.) – Your Cheating Heart
Cheating on someone is breaking one of the core sacred vows, especially if you’re married. That once trusting bond is then broken forever.
It then becomes difficult to conciliate. The best solution is not cheat in the first place, and obey your commitment.
Just decide to stop searching for lust from all the wrong places, and bite your tongue and desire. Hopefully you didn’t give in, and it’s too late.
3.) – Why You So Mad
Think of all those times you had a bad day at work, and went home in a bad mood, full of pee and vinegar.
We hurt the ones we love the most. So guess what, guess who gets the blunt end of your sour mood, as you release your anger. Your spouse.
Coming home with a mind full of negative energy usually makes things ugly. Instead, why not alter your mood first. The best way is to just ask for a hug and say, “I’ve had a bad day.”
4.) – There’s No Support
One of the biggest faults is not supporting the one you love, when they need you the most.
Not showing empathy towards someone who’s stressed or burnt out due to some life altering event, shows you don’t care. It’s not worth your time or energy.
This makes you fallacious. If you’re not able to be there in their time of need, and you’re not willing to change.
Then a change of scenery might be in order, to find a more supportive relationship.
5.) – Becomes Too Toxic
You just can’t tolerate your partners friends or in-laws, because they’re too controlling, or you feel they’re a bad influence on your spouse.
If it’s a control issue, then step up boldly to save your relationship, by demanding they change their ways.
If they continue to engage in their bad behaviour while disrespecting or disregarding you, then find new people to hang out with, or limit your contact.
6.) – You Lost That Loving Feeling
Once you stop being affectionate to the one who loves you, then eventually, they’ll stop asking for this affection. They however might seek it elsewhere, like having an affair.
After you’ve turned down the advances of your spouse numerous times, it then becomes too embarrassing for them to ask.
It becomes too difficult to even ask for attention, such as for mutual things like cuddling or holding hands. One benefit of a relationship is intimacy, yet you’re denying it.
7.) – Those Lying Eyes
Some will just outright lie to one other, because they don’t want to look bad. Or they don’t want to admit they did something their partner doesn’t like or approve of.
What compounds the situation is choosing to lie in the first place, as usually you need to lie again to cover that first lie.
Just be honest at all times, and the relationship will get on the right track. Remain true, and your spouse will trust in you and the relationship.
8.) – Never Borrow Or Steal
Financial issues account for more than a third of all divorces. It’s financial infidelity that’s become a common catchphrase, when couples are wanting to go their separate ways.
If you’re going to “steal” from someone you loves and trusts you, you really need to establish your priorities.
Never think you’re entitled, or your spouse is a cheap miser hoarder, as you need to alter your mindset.
If you’re not able to work this out, then you might as well divide the assets right now.
9.) – Hang In There Baby
It’s the couples who works on their relationship on a daily basis, agreeing to face all the challenges through thick and thin, are those who withstands the test of time.
Giving up doesn’t mean giving in, which is more a process which needs to be considered when you’re at odds with one another.
Relationships need compromise, as you can agree to disagree, without it becoming toxic. So always talk it out.
10.) – The Communication Gets Lost
Silence is not golden when it comes to relationships. The more you refine your communication with one other, the better off you’ll get along.
Maturely talking it out on a daily basis, is the most important key to any relationship.
If you have poor communication issues, the odds of having a lasting relationship begins to fail, plain and simple.
So mutually sit down and constantly use the words which counts. You’ll get more volume than you think.
Altering how you treat each other can be as simple as changing a bad habit.
Mindfully know how you’re both behaving by taking daily inventory. By taking a look at and assessing what you’re doing and why. Then your relationship might just last forever.