Whenever we meet someone for the first time, what we initially do is access their personality. We’ll instantly take note of their visual characteristics. Once someone approaches you with a warm natural smile, a friendly voice along with a helpful attitude, you like them.
These are the signs of an outgoing well adjusted personality, which reflects their attitude and temperament. Conversely, you notice someone who has a poor demeanor, and conclude that they’re not friendly or authentic, you find them to be untrustworthy and phony.
Some individuals always appear hostile, come across as bitter and angry, or timid and detached. It could be that they’re just having an extremely bad day, but nonetheless, it’s the first initial impression which counts.
It also becomes difficult to make a fair assessment on anyone you meet for the first time, this based on a single encounter, but we judge them anyway.
Traits Of A Healthy Personality
So what is the description of a healthy personality. There are certain characteristics that we’re born with, such as being outgoing, aggressive, or shy by nature. This is what makes us individually unique.
As parents, since we’re their first influence when it comes to contact, it’s our responsibility to develop their disposition. If a child’s outgoing personality is squelched by a parent that’s extremely overprotective, this will modify the formation of their personality.
Pushing a quiet introverted child into the spotlight might be unjust. For an aggressive child, it depends on the extent of their aggressiveness. Are they overly aggressive which can harm others, or just proactive with a go-getter attitude.
The Balancing Point
The balancing point is making adjustments so that the individual nature of the child is taken into account. It’s the obligation of the parents when it comes to tweaking their temperament towards they developing a healthy personality.
Cultivating a personality can become a difficult task, but will ultimately prove rewarding for the parent and instrumental for the child. What our goal is for our kids to grow up as stable, responsible, and well adjusted independent adults as possible.
You Are Their Biggest Role Model
There’s overwhelming evidence that kids learn by example. If a boy’s father happens to be too strict and authoritarian, constantly and unjustifiably punishing him with little cause, these actions will lead towards a timid personality.
If the daughter happens to be a bit of a tomboy, but mom prefers and pushes her to be a pageant queen, these actions will breed feelings of inadequacy. What will eventually result in these cases is rebellion and resentment.
If Mom and Dad always happens to be fighting in front of their children, the kids will feel guilty assuming that it’s their fault, all signals which could lead towards a dysfunctional personality.
So what needs to be look at are the characteristics of a healthy personality, and then finding the best ways on how to best nurture these qualities so they’ll become happy adults.
It Starts With You
What you need is to take a honest assessment of your own personality type. Are you generally cheerful, a happy person, or do you have a temper and can become easily annoyed, glaring at everyone when you’re in a bad mood.
Is your behavior reasonable and neutral, or do you come off on people for minor transgressions. Everyone has their own little quirks, so know yours and then attempt to change them.
Take inventory of your own negative behaviors, this before you start passing them along to your kids. Also realize that most ingrained patterns of bad behavior won’t go away overnight.
Setting A Good Impression
If you’re too impulsive and emotional, realize that you’ll have these lapses on occasion. Once you slip, immediately apologize to your kids, letting them know that you recognize your faults.
You might say something like, “John, I know I’ve got a bad temper sometimes, and I shouldn’t take it out on you. I’ll try harder and promise not to do this.” Let them know that you’re aware, keep working on it, and leave it at that.
Your child will respond favorably while also learning a lesson which helps them adjust their own personality. They learn that everyone has personality flaws, and that discussing and then putting in the effort to correct them works.
A Well Adjusted Attitude Begins With You
Once they receive an apology from you, what that teaches them is that humility is important. That you promising to work on your issues shows that everyone can change their behavior, this provided you don’t repeat it over and over again.
Your child will pick up on your honesty while beginning to consciously take responsibility of their own actions. What you need to be however, is be consistent in your efforts, show improvement, and keep your word.
Once you level and deal fairly and honestly with your kids, they see that your trying, then what they’ll do is follow by example.
A Healthy Personality Begins At Home
Using these bonding techniques teaches trust which solidifies the understanding of development, which no one else can teach or instill, after all, you’re their first role model.
You’ll find by using a well-balanced and moderate approach, inspiring critical thinking skills, encourages even temperament, honesty, a positive outlook, responsibility, authenticity, all elements of a healthy personality.
Kids are more observant than we give them credit for, and we’re their core influence. As they grow, face the real world, they’ll reflect back to the life skills which you taught them, so set a good example.