Do you know what your mental recovery rate is, how long it takes for you to forget, to forgive, to get over your grudges or bad behaviours gone wrong. The direct actions of others that upset you. Depending on its severity, does it take minutes, hours, a day, an eternity.
The longer it takes, the bigger a stranglehold the incident has on your future actions, and the less you’re able to forget.
The bigger the effect has on you, the weaker and slower your reaction rate will be to move on.
What you need to ask yourself is when the last time you got upset with your spouse, partner, siblings, children, or acquaintances for something that they did.
Get Over It
Do you ruminate over the incident for hours, a day, a week ago, or does it still resonate in your mind, depending on the severity.
How many times have you missed an opportunity, just because you were still clouded with this anger.
What a poor recovery rate does is it affects your health, your well being, restricting you from living life to your fullest potential.
How The Body And Mind Recovers
Once we do cardio exercises, what it does is it quickens our respiratory system while elevating our heart rate.
The way we measure how fit we are, is by how fast our body is able to recover after the exercise.
Likewise, the quicker you let issues which upsets you dissipate, the quicker you’ll return to your equilibrium, and the healthier you’ll be.
For instance, for professional athletes, they know their performance is based on how fast they’re able to recover from their activity.
How quickly they’re able to forget incidents mentally, and move on, the better their performance will be.
We’re All Actors In Real Time
The job of an actor, is to play out a character on stage or film. They have a script, and on that script there are lines and acts, which has a start, climax and an ending.
Each time they get to the end of their line or act, they need to clear their mind and start fresh on the next act without being affected by the previous one.
Their job is to deliver the sentences the best to their ability, in perfect character.
Now translate that to your life, your life is nothing more than a play, a drama, and you play the main character in that play.
The Story Of Our Lives
Your job is acting out your script, to the best of your ability. The better you do so, the better chance you have of inspiring or influencing others around you.
Each new incident, every new contact you face in your life is a new act. The key is learning to recover from the previous act, and and go on to the next scene.
Do so every time you have a conversation with someone in person, on the phone, or even when sending an email.
To Recover Quickly
When you have a disagreement with someone, you’ve both already moved on with life since that incident, when you meet them again.
If you remember that last incident you had with them, does is halts you from moving forward. It delays you from growing or finding new opportunities.
So the next time you see that person who may of upset you, or you upset them, it should be forgotten, as there’s nothing to be gained from the past.
Consider the incident history, that you’re both in a completely different place and time now, so hit the reset button and start over with them.
Consider It To Be Destiny
Accept what’s happened in the past as destiny, and just live with it. You can’t change what happened, and sulking won’t help. Analyzing just keeps it fresh in your mind.
Similar to the saying you can’t enter the same river twice, you’ll never face the same situation again, so there’s no point dwelling on the previous incident.
All you can do is correct your thought patterns which activates under certain circumstances, and stops you from performing at your best.
You can then look at that habit, dissect it, and then decide how you can change it.
Living For Today
Never live your life in the past. Learn from your mistakes, correct those mistakes in the present, and live a better future.
Don’t allow the past to dictate your life, by getting over it, forgetting about it, by learning to recover quickly.
To increase your recovery rate requires changing your thought patterns, to improve your attitude and behaviour, which require effort. Once you want to change, you will.
Once you realize life isn’t working out, is when you’ll begin putting in more effort to change your immediate behaviour, by improving your recovery rate.
The Recover Reset Button
You can check your progress by measuring how quickly you’re able to react, from a complete stop. The time it takes for you to let things go, forgive and forget.
The time it takes to get over it, and you’re able to reset your mind and function at peak performance again.
Forgiveness And Your Rate Of Recovery
Keep in mind improving your rate of recovery won’t happen immediately, it takes time and effort. Measure your progress on how you’re able to recover quicker, on a daily basis.
Before you go to bed, check your progress. Never do so by saying, “I did that wrong, I should have done that better.”
But instead, look back at your day and note where you made the effort, by placing a complete stop after an incident.
This means that you’re taking control of your life and making progress, and not allowing your ego to dictate your life.