How To Recognize And Deal With Those Control Freaks In Your Life

someone who is criticalThese are the people who has a need to control every situation in theirs and the life of others to extremity. This most likely stems from a low self-esteem, where they’ll mask the anger pangs or insecurity, this once challenged or argued. They’ll do anything to control.

When it comes to these control freaks, most would considered it a disorder. The control issues are often compulsive, obsessive, manipulative, passively aggressive, as they show the symptoms of a mood disorder. They might be nice one day, then completely irate the next.

They desperately have the need to control everything in their life, this because without it, what they fear is that things will spiral out of control, and then their precisely detailed lives would fall apart.

Recognizing The Control Freaks
So how do you recognize those who are obsessed with having a need to control others. You may know of a few, as these types are prevalent everywhere in all walks of life. This in the workplace, social outings, and siblings.

These individuals at times, don’t even realize or consider themselves to be control freaks until told. And because they demand a high level of control, they also want to control their own image.

Although most will readily admit that they feel more comfortable when they’re in control of situations, they’re also offended by the “freak” part, as they don’t want to be associated with perhaps having a mental disorder.

Traits Of Controlling Others
Most of these control freaks will often justify their need to control by saying, “I need to be in charge because that’s my responsibility,” or “Everyone depends on me because they’re so incompetent, and it’s me that holds everything together.”

The need to control all situations isn’t psychologically healthy, this because there’s so much of life that can’t be controlled, and most realize that doing so is impossible.

What’s then experienced is unneeded anxiety, this because of the high bar that they set on themselves, which becomes too difficult to reach. What needs to be known are the most common traits of a control freak.

Constantly Correcting Others
Those with a need to control, will constantly correct others when they’re wrong, and will do so without fault.

They will make corrections while arguing or conversing, correct pronunciation or grammar, correct details on what happened in the past, correct bad manners, or if someone is rude or inappropriate.

There are hidden motivations on why they need to constantly correct others, but it’s usually because they think it’s their obligation, while they’re masking some type of personality deficiency.

Always Has The Last Word
Those who like to control find it difficult to have longstanding relationships, this because these controlling individuals persistently like to set all the rules, while constantly enforcing them.

They act as if they’re better, more superior than others, and are determined to show everyone that they’re in charge, that they’re more practical, intelligent, or logical.

They Will Never Admit They’re Wrong
Perhaps the most annoying trait of those who like to control, is their resistance to never admit that they’re wrong, and will never back off.

It could be the simplest most obvious issue to resolve, but these low esteem high controlling people don’t care how small or big the issue may be, or if they’re in the wrong, they’ll stubbornly never admit defeat.

Their thinking becomes distorted to the point where if they ever did admit they were wrong, that they would look weak, or it could be used against them. That others might perceive them as being incompetent because of the error or spat.


What these individuals think is it’s all-or-nothing, that everything is black or white. Anything in between becomes uncomfortable for them.

Constantly Judging Or Criticizing
Those who are judgmental or constantly critical, are traits of someone who has a desperate need to control others. They’re extremely principled, and are highly opinionated.

They may become verbally abusive as they’ll tell others what to do, this without giving them an option. They’ll offer solutions which are always in their favor, and not usually based on fact, often coming across as hypocritical.

Driven By Childlike Rage
What they’ll always do is protect their fragile ego, while thinking that they’re perfect, as they’ll constantly focus on the faults of others, this other than addressing or improving their own dysfunctional personality.

They’ll push others to the brink, forcing them to react by taking drastic action such as getting punched in the face, and will then blame the other person for being inappropriate.

What they display is impatience, get sullen or annoyed when challenged, or will dismiss or ignore the plea. They’ll demand others to change their ways, this to correct the mistakes, as it’s never their fault.

They genuinely believe that everything starts and ends with them, while shielding themselves from admitting that they were wrong, or to cover shame, while not bothering to take into account what anyone else is thinking.

To Control The Control Freak
Those who has a tendency to control, will constantly engage in a consistent predictable series of behaviors which will frustrate and cause resentment in others. They act the way they do, because they believe that’s how they need to accomplish their goals.

So if you yourself have any of these traits, then have the sense to step back and ask yourself if it’s worth really worth the turmoil, if you really need to engage in these behaviors.

If you know someone close to you who is a control freak, make them aware by confronting and pointing out their disruptive behavior. They might decide to step back and adjust their attitude, or they might just continue their dysfunctional ways, just to annoy.

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