It’s your choice to forgive or not, which only shackles you to your past. What holding on to the past does is prevents you from experiencing your true self, your potential. You carry the weight of guilt on your shoulders, by being held hostage.
You carry this burden, the grudges, what you feel was wronged to you, along with your motives of revenge which destructs and creates havoc on your mind.
What it does is it suspends your growth to move forward, as you dwell on the wrongdoings of the past.
You and only you hold the power and the key which can unlock and heal yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.
What forgiving can do is set you free, but it’s your choice to make.
Baggage From The Past
Once we carry resentment, the grievances, the old pain and misery mounts, and the old emotions come storming back.
We as a result end up hurting ourselves more, than those who we perceive did the hurting to us.
Being unforgiving is extremely detrimental to our being. Doctors can attest to the damage it does to our health, by failing to forgive others and more importantly ourselves.
The majority of illnesses we suffer as we age, are created from these emotional tissues.
Anxiety has the capability to destroy relationships, if we choose to carry the bitterness and the resentment which is associated with not forgiving.
To Forgive And To Forget
We need to forgive without being spiteful. It needs to be genuine, otherwise it’s not completely forgiven, as remnants are left behind. You’re only fooling yourself.
Even if the person you’re forgiving doesn’t feel they’ve done anything wrong, it doesn’t matter. Forgive them anyways.
With all the choices we’re given in life, our biggest responsibility is our own actions.
If someone doesn’t accept their own responsibility, then that’s on them.
Empowerment is the freedom of taking care of yourself, while doing good things for yourself. We don’t need anyone’s permission to heal ourselves.
So activate your personal power and forgive them, get rid of that dark energy and move on with your life.
Rid Of The Pain
There is a lot of emotional hurt and pain, buried dormant deep within our subconscious, taking up unnecessary space. We don’t remember them, therefore we think we’re free of them.
But this isn’t the case. All of this hurt remains as energy in our memory, which is stored in our minds.
It runs deep and it can hinder our lives. They silently replay over and over, which stifles our growth, as they hold our consciousness in victim mode.
Forgiveness however can be considered a selfish act, as it’s something you do to heal yourself.
The Act Of Forgiving
To forgive means you’re raising your vibration, leaving the victim consciousness, and moving forward with your life.
Forgiving also doesn’t mean you’re accepting the other person’s wrongdoing or behaviour.
It’s releasing the harmful energy which strangleholds your personal health and well being, rather than allowing someone to hurt you for their misconduct.
Once you hold onto the pain, the resentment and the fear, what these emotions are doing is surrendering your energy to the person who’s done the hurting.
When you don’t forgive, you’re allowing your subconscious to run and ruin your life.
You’re keeping yourself in the same repetitive victim mode, until you choose to release this bottled energy.
The Process To Heal
So tell yourself you’re ready to heal. You’re ready to forgive everyone who’s ever done you wrong, or you’ve done wrong to them.
You can do so by finding a safe space, sit and start making a list.
Go back as far as your memory allows, so you can remember and begin writing down every single name and event you see and hear, which you feel has created hurt, pain, or suffering.
Relive the pain. Think of your parents, relatives, siblings, friends, and neighbours. Go back to when you were in school, and your work place.
Write down every single name, which comes to you without holding judgment, who you feel did you wrong.
Once you feel your list is complete, then start a new list of all those who you feel you hurt, intentionally or not.
Be as honest as you can. Remember you’re the one suffering and seeking peace, so take responsibility.
The Forgiving Process
After you’re done, then go through the list and for each and every person, say the following out loud:
“I forgive (name) and I forgive myself. I release all the energy we’ve shared together over time. I send you love and I bless you.
I call upon the power of the universe to cut any and all connections between myself and (name).
These connections are now severed, lifted, healed, released and let go into the universe.
I accept the full and complete healing of my relationship with (name).”
The Power Of Release
This exercise can take awhile, but it’s extremely powerful and it’s proven to work.
You can free yourself if you think you’re cursed, or have a personal grudge against someone, and you think they’re holding you back. You’re now free to move on.
If there’s someone you still have difficulty forgiving, then keep repeating the affirmation on a daily basis until you feel it’s lifted.
Know just because you’ve forgiven someone, doesn’t mean you need to continue a relationship with this person. Just forgive and move on for good.
To Become Free
There are other extremely powerful ways, of freeing yourself by forgiving, such as meditation and visualization, which works specifically to deprogram your subconscious mind.
What you have is the power within you to change your life for the better, so begin by knowing who you need to forgive, so you can move on.