There’s change you’re wanting to make, but you’re in a rut, perhaps stymied by it. You’re nearing that point in your life where you long to do something different, find something entirely new, to alter your life. What you’re not doing however, is taking action.
Chances are, you already know what you’re wanting to do, this to recreate, to reinvent the next chapter of your life.
But instead, you’re skidding sideways and not doing anything, just hoping for wishes to come true.
This might be something elemental like eat healthier, exercising more, or perhaps rid of a bad habit.
Wanting To Change
At times, change comes easily and naturally, or it’s forced. We explore, then experiment, while learning, improvising, and then adapting.
Change is often difficult. We try, but are afraid of the outcome, afraid of the consequences if we fail.
Once this happens, we then blame and criticize ourselves, or just give up and we become convinced it doesn’t matter that much, that it’s not that important.
Then we feel hopeless, and helpless, as we continue to live out our lives with nothing new.
Making Sense Of Change
What’s known is some who are faced with major consequences, still refuse to make changes, such as stop smoking, stop drinking, lose weight.
It’s found there are just a select few, who are motivated enough to make the necessary changes, even if the end result is to perish.
So the majority are unsuccessful when making any type of change, but they’re not alone, as it’s a human inheritance.
What’s known is there are three critical keys to take, which can prompt change, which are: relate, repeat, and reframe.
1.) – To Relate
Find support, such as a person or community who can help, who supports and believes you can and will change.
They will “sell” you on yourself, forcing you to believe you have the ability to change. They persuade you that their methods will work for you.
Support such as Alcoholics Anonymous for instance, is there. They offer a community of similar people who are also needing to change.
They have a protocol and by using their methods, which are proven steps, inspires hope in you that change is possible.
2.) – Then Repeat
This is when you learn, practice, and master new habits, or the skills you need. What making change needs are new ways of feeling, thinking, and acting.
What it usually takes is plenty of repetition and willpower to master, to integrate these new ways of being.
Your new found community “trains” you, provides guidance, encouragement, and eventually your new behavior becomes a habit. Rinse and repeat.
3.) – Reframe Yourself
As you continue to relate and repeat, you begin to see the world differently, a way you’ve never seen before.
A vision of hope, which supports you in making the positive change a permanent one.
Keys Not There
So you’re trying to make changes, or wanting to learn something new. Say you’re wanting to learn to play the piano, for instance.
But you’re not even close to the level of playing how you want to. So you criticize yourself for lacking persistence and discipline.
Maybe you haven’t found the right tutor, or the method of instruction isn’t giving you the will to succeed.
The encouragement isn’t there. Although your intentions are right, you want to learn to play the piano, but you can’t relate.
Use The Three Keys
To make a positive change, all three, relate, repeat, and reframe all need to be present, for the change to work.
You need to find the proper source, in this case the right piano teacher as your tutor.
They need to have a proven program, which gives you conviction you can learn, which will inspire you while giving you hope.
Then there’s encouragement, when you’re doubting yourself when learning to play.
Eventually, what you’ll do is adopt new insight, gain confidence, and everything the piano instructor teaches becomes second nature, as there’s more joy, ease, and passion.
The Need To Change
For any change to happen, the three keys need to be present. Once the “fit” is right. you’ll know.
You’ll then be inspired while filled with hope, as the new change offers hope, purpose and pleasure. What’s developed are new ways of thinking about yourself and your life.
With the three keys to change in place, you can then make any life changing alteration, become permanent.
In Your Life
So decide what change in your life you’d like to make, or have had difficulty in making.
Begin by first identifying what you want to change, something you would like to be, or do differently in your life.
Be specific about what you’re wanting to alter. If it’s a dream, vision, or desire which energizes and enlivens you, they’re excellent signs towards the process of change.
Finding A Relationship Which Inspires
The right relationship is the foundation on what your change will be built on, so choose wisely.
What you want is an individual or a community of people, with proven methods, approaches, and strategies which excites you, which energizes and convinces you can make change.
First give yourself the permission, then the time to learn, practice, and then master the change, with the guidance, direction, and the support from your new relationship.
The new skills you’ve learned, will enable you to make the change you’re wanting to make.
See Your Life And Situation Alter
What some changes can prove to be, are extremely difficult to make, which doesn’t mean it’s hopeless, or a lost cause.
If you begin having difficulty making a change, always go back to the relate, repeat, and reframe protocol.
Then there’s new hope, the new skills you’ve learned, the new ways of thinking, will allow you to make any and every change in your life permanent.