She had an annoying habit of asking whenever she liked a certain item that someone else owned, how much it cost. This could be a complete stranger or someone she knew. It could be a piece of clothing or an accessory, she’d ask. “This is beautiful, how much did it cost?”
She had absolutely no idea asking was considered impolite or too invasive. In our current society, we’re conditioned to ask anything, but what still remains conflicted and secretive is discussing money. Money still remains somewhat taboo for many.
So is it considered rude to ask how much a personal possession costs or is worth, as money as a symbol appears to remain sacred. It’s economic purpose is an exchange system for survival, such as buying food, clothing, shelter, etc.
If we don’t have enough money and can’t pay for these basic necessities, then life can become extremely harsh, embarrassing, and painful that way. Money as a spiritual source however, has deeper rooted meaning.
Give Me More Money
Money has been linked to independence, along with having superior social status, cultural, and gender equality. Money commands respect, power, worthiness, and sex appeal leading to love and happiness.
Modern day money means different things to different people, and as a result reveals different things about us, our personalities.
What Money Says About You
Not in how many dollars you have right now, but what your attitude about it is. What your current relationship is when it comes to your finances. It comes down to your mindset, what you tell yourself, what your beliefs are.
Some believe that being frugal or cheap, makes them a better responsible person. For instance, Sally saved at least 10% percent of every paycheck, which is noble, even during those times when she didn’t earn that much.
“At times it was hard. I’d just tell myself whenever I really wanted something, that I didn’t need it right now.” She lived frugally in a small apartment, with no social life, making all her meals at home.
She said that she was protecting, building her future. “I’ll need that money one day.” But there’s another angle to her savings pattern. For years, she also had an eating disorder, where she would deprive herself of eating on a regular basis.
Once she began to get better, she revealed, “I thought I could save more because I could do without food.” Then once her health improved by eating more, she changed her attitude about money.
Although she still continued to save, she also decided to earn more so she could spend a bit more on herself. “It didn’t make me feel worse. I’m a lot healthier and a happier person and I’m taking better care of myself.”
I Am Better Than You
John bought a rather expensive brand name watch and then wore it proudly with his designer shirt and suit jacket. If someone didn’t recognize the luxury item, he would get upset and critical.
To him, their lack of knowledge just proved that they were out of the loop, and not as smart or trendy as he was as a consumer. So what’s John’s story? He was an extremely insecure person.
This you wouldn’t know when talking or looking at him. But he constantly worried that he wasn’t smart or handsome enough, so as a result, he thought that he could demonstrate his intelligence and savvy by what he bought and wore.
He thought his luxury items would mask his insecurity, raising his status in the world. This made him more confident because of what he wore and owned. He firmly believed that “brand names” and the luxury car he could barely afford, made him superior.
I Don’t Need Money “I Have Everything I Want”
This is what some will tell themselves. It’s rational and completely understandable, but life often interjects.
Alice loved to travel. Her occupation as a bartender, financed her various excursions. She would freely travel to the destinations she always wanted to visit, even working odd jobs along the way when she became low on funds.
To her, money was just a means to an end, and was quite the free spirit with the way she lived her vagabond life. But somewhere along the way, love happened, she got married and started a family.
“Then all of a sudden, there were other things that I needed money for. I wanted to make my hubby and family happy. I wanted ballet and piano lessons for my kids, to show them how good of a mother I was. I wanted to prove I made the right choice, and be responsible.”
Daydreaming About Money
What all these scenarios represents are daydreams about how we think and handle money. What makes us happy to improve our self-esteem while enhancing our lives and relationships.
Our attitudes about money depends on how we were raised, such as if we grew up poor, and our parents couldn’t afford good shoes or exquisite food, surviving day to day, money felt like a rare item.
Back then, what you never thought of is ever going away on trips to foreign lands, like your other friends at school did. So as a result, to this day, you don’t like to travel abroad.
This is how our personalities form when it comes to our attitude about money, and how we treat it currently. Money is more of an economic concern, rather that spiritual energy, something that’s symbolic.
So extract the intrinsic meaning of money from its emotional meaning. Separate them, and then you should be able to deal with your money issues more practically, deciding how it could work for you better.