Does getting married really make you happier, more socially integrated into society than those aloof singles. Are you better off in regards to being physically, emotionally and inter-personally healthier. The debate continues if it’s more advantageous to get hitched, or to enjoy the benefits of remaining single.
What can’t be ignored is that those who are single, clinically, they’re a lot more mindful and aware about themselves than those who are married.
There are obvious pro’s and con’s of either or, as there’s no simple, one-size-fits-all answer to whether it’s better to enjoy the freedom of a life with no commitments, or to adopt responsibility.
Traditionally, what studies show is there’s more support to the claim that getting married and remaining married wins out, but analytically, it doesn’t pass the scientific muster.
Most results are skewed in that those who are married, appears to be doing better than they actually are, while singles are thought to be social outcasts, who are unable to find a mate.
The Good And The Bad
There are studies which supports that those who choose to remain single, has a higher awareness of their well being. They’re generally more emotionally and physically stronger.
What it depends on is why they choose to be single.
For those who were single for a while and then gets married, and remains married, they’re not any happier than they were when single.
Those who gets married then divorces, are usually less happier than when single. What getting married doesn’t do, is guarantee that it’ll last.
Lifelong singles do better than married people in a variety of ways, which they’re not given credit for.
For instance, they’ll do more to maintain contact with their friends, neighbors, siblings, parents, and coworkers than those who are married.
Singles volunteer and help others more, such as their aging parents who needs help, where most who are married can’t find the time.
Singles experience more autonomy while having more determination, while seeking more personal growth and development.
The Stats Don’t Lie
In 1978, there were 39% percent of the population who were single, while the latest census shows that there are now 51%+ percent of adults over 19, who chooses to be single.
There are arguments that single people are more independent, happier, while living a more intense diverse meaningful lives.
In the past, the belief was that getting married was preferred, to be mentally healthier and socially expected and accepted.
Obviously, times have changed.
So Which Is More Preferred
This isn’t saying that being single wins out, although there is mounting evidence on the contrary, that single people are experiencing more fulfilled lives, than their married counterparts.
There’s also evidence which proves married people are much better off, but this more from a traditional standpoint, than a scientific one.
What’s steering more favorable in the modern world we live in, is it’s now better to remain single and become independent, and not surrender to the security of being married.
Having to spend your entire life with the same person, can prove mundane at times torturous.
Different Thinking Patterns
What’s known is that those who are married, and those who choose to remain single for a variety of reasons or circumstances, have different perspectives.
There are many who gets married just for the sake of getting married, as they feel better since it feeds their self-esteem, so they make it a priority to get married.
For those who are coerced into marriage, especially those who are “single at heart,” are those who strays and have extramarital affairs, or gets divorced.
Pro’s And Con’s It’s Either Or
The goal is what makes you happy.
What’s known is that some will fulfill their dreams by getting married, while those who impulsively gets married, quickly regrets it.
There are others who lives their best, most authentic lives which are meaningful and fulfilling, by choosing to remain lifelong single.
Perhaps for some, choosing to live the single life is preferred during certain times in their lives, during discovery or recovery, where being coupled or married is better at other times in their lives.
What’s known is that those who become widowed, had good marriages while having no regrets about the years they’ve spent being married.
But suddenly they now find themselves single and they absolutely embrace that freedom, and never want to get married again.
Living Life To It’s Fullest
The world is becoming more singular, where “me” first is becoming more prominent.
When single, the odds increases that we can live our lives to our fullest potential, by not being held back.
This remains true for everyone, whether married, single or if stuck something in between.
What everyone seeks is independence.
For Better Or For Worse
One thing for certain is those who are married, are usually protected better economically.
So if one partner happens to face difficulties, their spouse can and would support them, this in the event of job loss or ill health.
What’s also obvious, is that married couples benefit from the “economies of scale,” where singles cannot.
They’re able to split the rent or mortgage, utilities, and the other household expenses.
Those who are married with children are gifted with a variety of government benefits, and financial protection.
The Tradition That Is Marriage
Marriage, in contemporary society, allows couples to fortify and align their beliefs, such as the psychological, emotional, social, political, and cultural ones.
More often, the lives of those who are married, are more valued, recognized, and celebrated, where those who are single, their lives are at times marginalized or even mocked.
So what results is that even if singles may experience greater freedom and happiness, they do so against the grain.
What single people have is more resilience, which is an admirable human trait, which isn’t often recognized or acknowledged.