It could be any type of social or business setting, where you need to come across crystal clear and shine. To be someone others will remember you by for your charisma. You instantly know when a person is uncomfortable in these situations, as they act extremely aloof and nervous.
They could be rapidly blinking as their head is bobbing up and down. What they’re doing is making a poor first impression.
Then the thought is maybe they don’t like you, or there’s something wrong with them. Their mind is clearly wandering elsewhere.
They’re scanning the room, perhaps looking for more exciting people than you to talk to, or maybe they’re looking for someone they know.
What’s obvious, is their focus is not on you or the conversation. The worst, is they’re constantly looking at their smartphone.
So you wonder if you’re that boring, or if they’re just that rude.
If you don’t happen to know one other, you most likely won’t speak to each other again. There’s absolutely no connection or chemistry whatsoever.
Be Someone Of Interest
If you meet someone who’s interesting however, someone who’s completely attentive to you. You’re actively engaged in a mutual conversation, you’re instantly attracted to them.
At that precise moment, the only thing important to them, is you and no one else.
You’re the most relevant person to them, as they’re giving you their full complete undivided attention.
To Be Charismatic
This is how those who are charismatic react. The reason why they’re able to shine, have unique influence, is because what they do is connect with you with engaging impact.
What they have is a glowing aura, and dynamic energy. They have the ability to make you and everyone else feel special.
You’re the only person in a crowded room important to them. What everyone craves is this attention, the ability to make someone feel exclusive.
Increasing Your Charm
What most think is having charisma is innate, a special gift someone is born with. A feature in their personality, making them more attractive than others.
It’s thought these personality qualities aren’t available to everyone. That you’re gifted with this unique x-factor or not.
It’s a special quality which compliments your good looks and sparkling personality. You’re a leader of people.
What charisma does is makes you unique, makes you standout. It sets you apart from the crowd of other ordinary men and women.
What research shows, is charisma can be unearthed and refined. It begins with knowing the properties which contributes to it.
1.) – Have Empathy
Imagine the stance of living in another persons shoes. Having the ability to see things from their point of view.
The ability to know what they’re thinking, feeling, or currently going through, just by looking at them.
How you can display empathy, is by mentally placing yourself in their situation at that moment.
This by being fully attentive to them, which you’re only able to do when you care. To not be full of yourself hiding behind that big ego.
2.) – Listen Between The Lines
In order to understand what someone is really attempting to say, evaluate exactly how they say it.
Detect what they’re not able to say, by reading their body language and nonverbal cues.
Think of someone who constantly interrupts you. The reason why they do so, is because they’re anxious, and too preoccupied with what they’re going to say next.
They’re not listening to what you’re saying at all. They don’t really care what you have to say, because they’re only focused on themselves.
All they’re thinking is what their response is going to be. How witty or insightful they’ll be, how impressive they’ll come across.
So if you’re distracted or thinking about what you’re going to say next yourself, you’re not listening.
3.) – Appropriate Eye Contact
This is the ability to hold the gaze of someone else, without coming across as being uncomfortable.
Making comfortable eye contact is the deal maker when it comes to human connection, especially if you’re attracted to one other.
What we feel once someone suddenly shifts their eye contact away from you, is they’ve mentally moved on. Their attention has shifted elsewhere.
This intuition is correct, since what science proves is once a gaze is broken, the mind begins to wander away. This reaction is just a mechanical brain process.
When you have mutual direct eye contact with someone, the impact of that connection is extremely powerful. What doing so does, is magnifies you being acknowledged with empathy.
4.) – Always Be Enthusiastic
What enthusiasm does is makes someone feel better, as you give them praise for their actions or ideals. Genuine enthusiasm is difficult of being faked, because it’s a spontaneous emotion.
Enthusiasm occurs, once you sincerely engage with what someone is doing or saying.
For you to come across as genuine, you need to sincerely feel it. Your mind being in the moment with that person becomes essential.
5.) – Showing Confidence
What most worry about, is not wanting to come across as nervous or aloof. All they care about, is what others might think of them.
Most are so paralyzed with this fear, they end up coming across as scared and distant.
What they do, is focus on themselves instead of the other person they’re engaging with. Once you’re mindful, what you naturally focus on is them, rather than yourself.
Once you begin focusing on the other person or the crowd, and stop talking about yourself so much. You come across as being confident, rather than skittish or narcissistic.
6.) – Know Exactly What To Say
To engage with others, what you need is to communicate fluently. It becomes vital to read the person or the audience, by knowing what they’re thinking, to make a good impression.
Once you connect with others, you’re able to understand their exact state of mind, so they can understand what you’re talking about.
You can then adjust what you say, so you’ll be heard and appreciated.