What’s not possible is attempting to be positive at all times under every circumstance, which is a fact of life we all need to deal with. We also can’t think positive and negative thoughts at the same time. It’s either one or the other.
Things rarely go as planned. We can however set up warning signals and safety measures, by developing better habits.
What we all strive for is to place ourselves on the road to becoming better, to hopefully master this thing called life, our life, and all of the circumstances surrounding it.
All this while on the quest to find happiness, ultimate success, love, and abundance in our daily living. As we grow older, our lives become the direct result of the habits we adopt.
So if you have a ritual of working out, meditate, or like to read first thing in the morning, then you’re setting yourself up for a day of positive structure. You’re on the right track.
But most however, will continue to stumble out of bed just before noon, wolf down donuts or day old pizza, while surfing their Facebook newsfeed for hours.
Their lives continue down the all too familiar spiral of destruction, while becoming miserable.
Getting Better Everyday
Try to get better everyday. To improve is a sacrifice you need to make. This does not mean you need to give up on everything you love to do, which may be vices.
What the forgiving world we live in does is gives us second chances, opportunities to hit the “reset” button to get it right, to build a better life once we do the work.
It’s just a matter of making the right sacrifices, to survive what doesn’t kill you.
Never Hold Grudges
Holding grudges are daggers to the soul, as holding on to anger is like grasping a hot lump of coal with the intention of throwing it at someone you don’t like. It’s your hands however, that get burnt.
This doesn’t mean that once someone does injustice, that you should dismiss it or pretend it never happened.
What this means is never allow it to fester in your memory and your gut, when judging the future actions of the person who did you wrong.
Life is a series of mistakes, as we all make them, as we’ve all let someone down somewhere at one time or another.
This is the human condition. So just forgive yourself and others as quickly as possible, and do things differently next time.
Think What’s Missing In Your Life
You’ll never be perfect and if you were, that would make you quite boring. Everyone has their deficiencies.
If you were perfect, then you would have no goals to work towards. There would be no reason or motivation to challenge yourself to get better everyday.
So instead of focusing on what’s deficit in your life, focus instead on what you have.
Learn to become more grateful, this not because others are worse off than you, but because you’re able to choose what you’re happy about.
Never Care What Others Say
Who really cares what others think or say about of you, that’s their opinion and station in life, and not yours.
Always address those who acknowledges something good that you did, by showing your gratitude and love them back.
Once you expose yourself to enough people, regardless of what you say or do, not everyone will agree with you, not everyone is going to like you. That’s their problem.
Just focus on those who’ll support you, while ignoring those who’ll stab you in the back.
Just learn to take all the criticism in stride, and treat it as tough love.
If someone chronically dislikes you, you shouldn’t completely ignore them either. Know the difference between it being a malicious attack, and constructive criticism.
Face Confrontation Without Anger
There are times when you need to stand up for yourself.
This could be a friend who constantly wants something, that annoying boss who’s too overbearing, or that co-worker who constantly sabotages or takes credit for your work.
Once these situations arise, most often, it won’t go away by you attempting to avoid them.
You need to put up your human deflection shield and man/woman up. You need to diffuse the confrontational situation.
Begin by not holding a grudge, although it can be difficult when someone is attempting to sabotage your life.
At times, they don’t even realize they’re terrorizing you. So just tell them up front face to face, that their actions are affecting your life.
What you should never do is seek out this confrontation, as you’ll rarely win any arguments with someone who’s accustomed to creating this type of distress intentionally.
This occurs more commonly when dealing with those who are usually more rational, or those who you need to deal with on a daily basis.
If you’re in line at the coffee shop however, and someone, a complete stranger you don’t know suddenly jumps the queue, then get mad and give them a piece of your mind.
Waiting For The Perfect Opportunity
Time is something that’s in constant perpetual motion that’s always ticking forward. It doesn’t wait for anyone.
You’ll eventually run out of either money, time, or good health. Time doesn’t care about you. So fulfill all of your goals and dreams by taking action right now.
Don’t keep waiting until you have more skills, more information, or more money.
Just calculate your risk the best you can, throw caution to the wind and then jump in, and take that leap of faith.
You may first stumble and fall, embarrassingly fail, you might hurt your pride, but at least you know you’re trying, and striving towards living to your fullest potential.
So if you’re wanting to do something with your life, you have dreams, then there’s no point in waiting for that perfect time, as tomorrow never comes.
So just go for it, jump in and make it happen, and then you’re living life on your terms.