The Chemical Reaction That Occurs When Meeting Someone New

There’s a mutual magnetic attraction that occurs when meeting someone for the first time. A chemical reaction, a spark that occurs, before our conscious mind can realize or comprehend what’s happening, as it’s beyond our senses. What occurs is an act of science, before saying “hello.”

There’s a sense of anxiety which is quickly overtaken by anticipation, that’s ultimately consumed by excitement. The heart pounds as the sweat glands activate, this when meeting someone for the first time, this especially a romantic encounter such as a blind date. Then you instinctively like that person, but do they like you back.

One of the biggest mysteries of human nature remains attraction. Why we’re attracted to certain individuals, while we’re completely turned off by others. Is love at first sight cured by a second look.

What others can observe, this before you can, is the chemical attraction between two people. What exists are a variety of nonverbal cues, ones which compounds, this when someone’s initially interested in you.

Spontaneous Increased Eye Contact
What people instinctively do is look at those they like, while avoid looking at people they don’t like. It’s known that it’s the brain chemical oxytocin that’s causing this reaction, and the reason for increased eye contact.

What increased levels of oxytocin does is increases mutual eye gaze, which provides a soothing sense of well-being, which invites and increases mutual attraction.

It’s oxytocin that’s also responsible for increased pupil dilation, which indicates interest. The wider that the dilation is, the more attracted that the person feels towards another.

Some knowing this, will purposely dilate their pupils, this to make themselves appear more sensual. There’s a fine line between increased comfortable eye contact and staring, which can then become creepy.

You can increase mutual gaze, this by maintaining eye contact while you slightly turn your head to momentarily break the gaze. The other person won’t perceive your extended gaze as staring, this because your head is moving.

Light Touching
What people often do is subconsciously touch the person that they like. During romantic encounters, what women may do is lightly touch the arm of the person that they are talking to, if there’s interest.

This light glancing touch isn’t an invitation towards a sexual encounter; as all it indicates is that she likes you, even before she realizes it herself.

What men will do to express mutual respect with another male, is by fist or chest bumping, lightly tapping the shoulder, or in sporting events, hug. Men will express their attraction towards women by lightly engaging in similar playful physical activities.

Another way of showing attraction is preening, such as adjusting a crooked tie, picking lint off clothing, which subconsciously indicates a person likes you.

Touching is one of the best reveals if a person is interested or not. To test, if you casually, accidentally touch another person and they suddenly or abruptly pulls away, the person isn’t attracted to you. They don’t like you, or aren’t interested in an intimate relationship.

Leaning Forward
Body language, it’s orientation is an important indicator which reveals that the person you’re talking to, likes you. People will instinctively lean forward towards those they like, while distancing themselves from those they dislike.

This inward leaning forward increases, as rapport increases. So if two people are sitting next to one other and like each other, their heads will simultaneously begin turning towards one other.


Then their shoulders will begin to slowly alter towards one other. Beyond that, their torsos will begin to turn, as they’re now facing one another, while leaning forward.

Mirroring Each Other
What others will observe before you will, is the subconscious reaction of mirroring someones body position, this if there’s attraction. Mirroring establishes compatibility, which can also be used to find out whether the person likes you or not.

What it does is sends out a signal that you like them; and in turn, they’re also predisposed to like you. So when you meet someone that you’re attracted to, begin mirroring their body position.

Then at some point later in the encounter, intentionally alter your body position. If the person begins to mirror you, this within several seconds, then they like you as well.

Placement Of Barriers
When first meeting someone, if they like you and are wanting to know you better, what they’ll do is begin removing obstacles which are between you two.

If they don’t like someone that they’re with, what they’ll subconsciously do is instinctively place barriers, objects between themselves and the person they don’t like.

This can often be a physical barrier, such as a newspaper, cup, cushion, purse, or whatever is immediately available.

Placing a barrier doesn’t always mean that they don’t like you. It can also mean they’re still not comfortable with you, that rapport has yet to be established. So just observe any physical barriers such as a cup, which potentially indicates if they’re comfortable or not.

If the person that you’re interested in, happens to place some type of obstacle between you two, which is a subconscious gesture, what it represents is stay back, that a bond has yet to be established.

As the conversation continues, monitor if the person moves the object. If they happen to place it to one side, then they’re removing the uncertainty they feel, showing that they’re warming up.

Nonverbal Behavior
What being aware of nonverbal behaviors does, is allows you to monitor the progress of who you’re with, the mutual rapport that’s building, that lets you know whether a person likes you.

These nonverbal behaviors will predispose the person to like you as well, which opens up the opportunity to develop the relationship under mutual conditions.