We’ve all attended parties, events, or conferences where it was completely boring, or stuck with dealing with the deadbeats of life. Once you come across others who are dull, you then try to avoid them at all costs in the future.
Labeling someone as boring, or worse yet, told that we’re boring ourselves, is one of the worst forms of social branding. There’s a huge divide between someone who’s completely mundanely boring, and someone who’s always the life of the party, and how the masses will perceive them differently.
The invites to every and all types of social gatherings don’t exist, interactions are kept at a minimum, this when you’re boring. Others avoid you like a disease, the wallflower that you are.
So how do you overcome being dull, and turn into someone that others will naturally gravitate to. To become vibrant, this by adopting the science that makes you magnetic.
Know the core basics on how to improve your ability to carry on a refreshing conversation, to develop a personality, this to have more brilliant day-to-day interactions.
So what’s on topic is why one is so boring. Determining and then rating the qualities of what the habits of these people do. On the top of the list is how they interact, their conversational habits, what they talk about.
Once these basics are grasped, then you may become a popular captivating brilliantly exciting person.
They Show No Interest
You’re having a conversation with someone, you think, but they’re not even looking at you. They show no interest, they’re inconsiderate and they’re boring.
They give you short blunt one word answers, constantly speak in blank terminology, or will constantly interrupt you.
It becomes extremely difficult to converse with them, as they’ll avoid eye contact, act like they don’t care, are non-expressive, they carrying on like you don’t exist.
They’re Never Positive
They’re constantly negative, complaining about anything and everything in their whiny voice. All they talk about is their misery, their problems, displaying complete disinterest in anyone else.
We’ve all been to gatherings, parties, functions, family dinners with relatives, where someone will continuously talk about how horrible their life and everything about it is.
They moan constantly about their spouse, job, sports team, any reason to dwell on the negative. They complain about things that are imperfect with their life, and they don’t care or ask about yours.
Mundane Bland Conversations
They talk about boring things, trivial, superficial events. They’re just interested in one topic, and will constantly repeat it over and over again, telling the same story or the same lame joke.
The conversation usually circles around the bland or the obvious, such as the weather, what type of work they do in full monotone description, avoiding every topic that is interesting.
These mundane conversations occur as they’re unwilling to reveal or open up about themselves. They’re never encouraged to begin conversations which are more interesting than, “It’s raining outside.”
Never Has An Opinion
This because of the fear of rejection, they’ll never offer their opinion on anything. They remain neutral, will agree with everything you say, you realizing that your goldfish has more backbone.
It’s found that those who have little to say on what they think, having no opinion, being completely predictable, are trying too hard to be liked.
All they want is to just fit in, making them boring, as what most want in a conversation is opposition, someone to disagree with, a quality debate.
Why So Serious
There’s no sense of excitement when talking to someone who’s completely serious at all times. What makes someone likeable is one being a goof, not taking themselves or others to seriously.
Instead, laugh out loud, be funny, make fun of yourself on occasion, smile, show you have a personality. Smirk when someone is sarcastic, make light of situations that are awkward. Just show a little bit of emotion.
Don’t Get So Self-Preoccupied
It’s always about you, “Me, myself, and I” becomes boring in an instant. Stop talking about how great you are, over and over again, as others will find you dull and will avoid you.
Having confidence is great, but displaying shades of narcissism, having a huge ego is boring. Stop being so self-centered because no one cares. Instead, take the focus off yourself and ask others questions about themselves instead.
Overly Tediousness
Those who talk about nothing, never get to the point, mumble, are extremely boring. This includes anyone who talks too slow, draws out conversations, pauses for too long before responding.
This similar to that boring teacher in school who gets stuck on a point, or can’t get it across, or constantly talks in circles around the same lesson, over and over, even though everyone gets the point.
To avoid falling into this sinkhole, try to get to your points across as quickly and precisely as possible, while incorporating a few stories into the mix, this to inject some excitement once the conversation begins to lag.
Don’t Be Annoying
Stop trying to be that perfect person, attempting to please everyone while appearing to be accomplished at all times. Trying too hard to be liked, always trying to be courteous, overly nice.
What doing so does is it makes you look desperate, coming across as someone with a boring empty life.
Instead, be mindful on how you can impress at the moment, so it doesn’t appear like it’s an act. Think of how you can connect with others, adding value to their life.
Once you begin to behave this way, others will then be interested and impressed in you as a person, and not as someone who’s being phony, who’s trying too hard to be accepted.