There are some people who constantly feel sad about themselves, while not realizing it or knowing the reasons why. What then happens, is they’ll sit alone quietly in a room full of people, speaking very little, being socially aloof, drowning in their mood.
Most sad people will remain in a unresponsive state and won’t impulsively laugh, when there’s a genuinely funny situation. They find sitcoms on TV stupid.
What’s found is there’s a myriad of triggers that causes this sadness, which can fly under the radar.
What’s usually developed are coping strategies, mechanisms to help them cope, blend in with the rest of society somehow, while they’re constantly suffering under the surface.
What they’ll flash are the fake smiles, telling everyone everything’s fine, while they experience internal turmoil.
8. Might Be Looking For Closure Somehow
Those who feel sad, are often trapped by haunting secrets of their past, which could be personal wrongdoings, or poor decisions they’ve previously made, and they’re the only ones to blame.
This could be some type of painful or traumatic event that happened to them, which they constantly dwell on, making them feel sad and down.
These could be painful events, which may never been healed or properly addressed, making it difficult for them to project that “perfect-life” they’re attempting to display.
With all of these bad feelings bubbling underneath the surface, they can’t move forward, and be grateful for their life.
7. Display Sudden Outbursts Of Anger
What’s associated with being sad is apathy and listlessness, stemming from a variety of emotions that are simmering and volatile.
There are certain symptoms, which often goes undetected or are dismissed as being emotional outbursts. These emotions could suddenly become irritable and angry.
This angry behavior is often acknowledged as moodiness, and not considered an issue, but it could be a sign of a storm that’s brewing underneath the persona.
What’s known is these irritable angry outbursts, especially if they’re sudden and unexpected, are often underlined by depression.
6. Are Often Control Freaks
Those who suffer from being sad and hides it, has a need to constantly prove themselves. What they worry about is every detail in their life, making it difficult to enjoy the experience in a stress-free manner.
What they feel is the urge to always be right, to always be in control, to furnish their low self-esteem by micro-managing.
For instance, they claim they love to cook, but has a difficult time sitting down and enjoying the meal with their guests, as they’re sensitive to any criticism, watching every reaction with every bite.
The need for this control over every issue is extreme, while there’s plenty of time spent worrying about losing this control.
5. Usually A Perfectionist
One of the traits of someone who’s constantly sad, is they have a perfectionist personality. What most people strive for is to do their best, so they can do well in their occupation or task at hand.
Those who are sad, will elevate this perfectionism to unhealthy levels.
They will constantly berate themselves they’re not good enough, not being the best, not on top of things at all times.
When at work or doing their hobby, what they’re obsessed with is perfection every time. These instances could be being the perfect mom, best lawyer or marketer, best child to their aging parents.
4. Appetite Often Wavers
One of the key indicators of someone being chronically sad is it affects their appetite, resulting in abnormal eating habits.
What experts claim, is there’s a definitive link between eating disorders and sadness. What’s also connected, is how gut-bacteria can affect mental health.
There are others who claim sadness and eating disorders are two distinct illnesses, but one may lead to the other.
Eating disorders when it comes to sadness, are also thought to be more prevalent in men.
The reason for this is women are constantly changing their eating patterns because they often go on different diets, while men are usually just sad. So be aware of appetite changes.
3. Will Mask Sadness With Other Behaviors
Some will appear totally happy and well adjusted, hold down a good job while being a reliable and loving parent and friend, even though it’s extremely difficult for them to do so.
What they’ve developed are coping mechanisms and strategies, misleading others to believe they’re happy, well-adjusted extroverts of life.
What’s known is having a sense of humor, being hilarious, is often a mask to cover their sadness. What doing so does is it takes the attention away from appearing sad, by making others feel better.
There are some who will constantly talk too much, or place the needs of others ahead of their own, while not focusing on their own well-being.
2. Displays Too Much Empathy Towards Others
Those who are sad, goes overboard displaying concern for the well-being of others, more than they should, more than they will for themselves.
This way, it doesn’t allow others to see their hurt. This empathy towards others is also completely sincere, as they genuinely care more about the people around them, than they do about themselves.
Sad people will constantly deflect any signs they may need help themselves, dismissing or discouraging anyone who has an empathetic ear, by telling them they’re fine.
There’s a wall that they build around themselves, which protects them from anyone who thinks they’re lonely, sad, or depressed.
1. Often In Denial
Those feeling sad, will find ways to convince themselves as well as others, that’s how they are, that’s how they’re wired, that’s life.
This to find and justify the reasons for they feeling down on themselves, which can eventually lead to depression.
What’s available to measure your depressive state, are self-regulated tests anyone can find and take on the Internet, at no cost.
They’re self regulated, because they usually don’t want anyone else to see their results, to find out their degree of sadness.
The key is to be just honest with yourself. There are many however, who are in constant denial about their condition, and as a result, won’t answer the questions with complete honesty.
This becomes a slippery slope, since they then can’t find the reasons why they feel sad, because they constantly deny that they are.