What regulates how you feel, what your aptitude is, what your current state of mind is at, is by you mindfully managing and controlling your emotions. Our mood can instantly swing back and forth by the moment, as we’re constantly bombarded with unforeseen exterior forces. This alters how you look, think, and feel. It’s up to you to know and gauge what mood you’re currently in, and then adjust it accordingly.
Your goal, should be to remain as steady and calm as possible, at this precise moment. To remain balanced and sane, when you’re presenting yourself on the platform of life. To appear as lucid and approachable as possible, when facing stress. For many, what keeping calm and under control feels like, is that there’s just too much micro-management that’s happening in the brain, which becomes overwhelming.
So what you need is to actively monitor your mindset. This by knowing exactly how you feel and come across, at this or any given moment. This so you can regulate and adjust it if needed. What’s known, is that there are a variety of states of mind or mood, that you can find yourself in. What an active mindset does, is it keeps you stable and on the balance beam of life.
Be As Rational As Possible
Being rational, is what your ideal target frame of mind should be at all times. This is the ideal norm, the standard, the middle of the road thinking. This is when both hemispheres of the brain, are completely adjusted and engaged.
This isn’t a state of mind, where you’re walking around dazed and confused, and feeling like a zombie. This is rather a state of mind, where you’re able to control your smorgasbord of emotions, as a sounding board to make the right decisions.
Where you stay on balance, while you’re able to maintain a completely reasonable and well rounded perspective of your environment. You want to remain in this state of mind, for as long as possible.
You do so, while you’re working at your job, when your professional conduct is expected. This is the exact state of mind, where you’re always wanting to return to when things begin to go astray.
When You Become Anxious
We all know that state of feeling anxious. This is when we’ll suddenly wake up in the middle of the night, worrying about how much money we’ve saved, or the job performance evaluation the next day.
We constantly worry about the future, what’s going to happen to us, the fear of the unknown. All of the “what ifs,” the disasters that may or may not happen, the butterflies that are constantly fluttering in your belly. Anxiety can quickly alter your mood.
Or You’re Feeling Depressed
Anxiety is all about the future, a future that may never happen. Feeling sad and depressed, is often about what happened in the past. All of the regrets, the mistakes you’ve made, the choices you didn’t make. The opportunities that you missed out on.
For some, what’s worse than dwelling in the past, is the feeling of being trapped, that they’re boxed in and have no where to go. They’re tied up, and locked in a prison cell in their mind, and there’s no way out.
The soul feels empty, as that past relationship still resides in your mind, the sense that you’re going nowhere. That your life has no where else to go. The thoughts that reoccurs are “why even bother” “it doesn’t matter anymore” “things will never get better.” The world remains a dark gray place, so you can’t alter your mindset.
The Actions Of Anger
What we’ll then do, is begin to express anger, get mad and fume, and then begin plotting some type of revenge, to get back at someone or something. All this while repeating to yourself over and over again, how unfair life is.
In place of feeling anxious or helpless, what burns is a fire to take some type of raging action, to get even, to fight back. This state of mind, is usually not good or helpful. The burning anger within, is out of control and you’re wanting to do something about it, by finding an outlet.
Feeling Fear While Being Scared
Anxiety is to worry, while fear is a response to a previous bad experience, this usually stemming from childhood or a bad relationship. This is when you automatically begin to feel intimidated by someone, even when your rational mind tells you there’s no danger.
You then become withdrawn, you begin to feel insecure, you instinctively begin to appease the wants or demands of others, this to avoid confrontation. These various fears, are triggered once the previous wounds open up and reminds you.
You Stand Up And Become Rebellious
Similar to fear, standing up and becoming rebellious also has childhood implications. It’s not reacting because of feeling angry, but more of “you can’t make me do that” “don’t tell me what to do” “no I won’t do that.” What’s exposed, is resentment along with passive aggressive behavior.
Know Your State Of Mind
What we’re all constantly doing, is fading in and out of these emotions on a daily basis, at any given moment, as they can instantly alter our mindsets on a split second, this based on the immediate environment or situation. Think how you feel, when someone suddenly cuts you off in traffic, you feel anger resulting in road rage.
So the challenge becomes, to keep yourself on the balance beam, while preventing yourself from sliding into one of these emotional ditches. Once you do begin to slip, recognize it and stop yourself, by becoming mindfully rational.
To Become Rationally Balanced
What you consciously need, is to constantly keep track of how you feel, the very instance that any of these emotions becomes activated and attacks.
Always be asking yourself. “How am I doing, what’s my mood.” Ask yourself which emotions are taking you over. Are you getting irritable, worried, depressed, angry, rebellious. Are you feeling vulnerable or intimidated.
Recognize what it is, and then begin to stabilize yourself. Know the exact emotion, that’s creeping in and trying to hijack you. If you feel anger or depressed, go for a walk, meditate, take yoga classes. If you’re feeling anxious, breath deeply.
Track what’s going on in your mind, and then identify and label it immediately. Note what’s going on emotionally inside your brain and your body. The quicker that you recognize these situations, you can then adjust and set them straight.