Anger is a trait that includes a number of undesirable behaviors. You need to start consciously thinking how you come across to others, anyone and everyone you interact with on a daily basis. This spitefulness elevates your inflated “it’s all about me” ego.
You never want to be accused of being resentful, yet it will rear its ugly head at the most inopportune times. You then continue to repeat it over and over again, looking like a fool.
This includes a number of negative traits, from not saying what you’re really thinking or intending, or coming across in a hateful harsh tone of voice.
It includes cynical or sarcastic remarks, gossiping, and on a bigger scale, being outright rude.
Anger can stand in the way of you not being trusted, as what and how you say something becomes critical in building rapport.
So think how you come across to everyone you interact with on a daily basis, once you’re challenged, overruled, told what to do or wronged.
Check your attitude to make sure you’re on your best behavior, regardless of how angry you may become.
Always Tell The Truth
Your word is your personal human gospel when it comes to building relationships with your friends, family, or anyone else you talk to today.
It begins from the moment you decide to open your mouth and say something you’ll regret, and it will carry forward.
Telling the truth projects who you are and what you do, which is essential in building authenticity.
It’s through honesty that you build trust and confidence in the minds of others.
These qualities will help you maintain your current relationships, who’ll then confide in you.
All it takes is just one moment of obvious blatant dishonesty, to instantly destroy your reputation and credibility.
So always tell the truth. Come across as a genuine person by not allowing your ego to hijack you.
Integrity gives others a sense of confidence in you, that you’re a honorable person to confide and deal with.
What everyone enjoys is interacting with those who they like, know, and trust, and not someone who’s fishy and dishonest.
Have Empathy Towards Others
Individuals who display empathy has a soft spot in their hearts, and just can’t be mean spirited towards anyone. They treat everyone with respect.
They understand life is difficult, and they won’t be another burden to someone’s woes. To have empathy, you need to be sympathetic, walk in their shoes.
For those who are yet to learn this important life lesson, all they do is deliver the daggers of anger once challenged. They allow their spite to seep through.
For those who displays empathy, there’s no place for resentment to enter their heart, as they know it’s always not about them.
They interact with others, everyone they come across with from a foundation of love and understanding, and not hate and fear.
Let Go Of The Ego
Anger manifests itself from a place of perceived power. So in order for someone angry to win, they need to make others feel incompetent.
Rather than constantly competing with others, why not try to cooperate instead. Believe everyone is here to help one another.
Appreciate all the talents others have to offer. Recognize there’s plenty for everyone, and there’s no winner or loser, that everyone can succeed.
Let Go Of The Micro Managing
Some have a need to control people, a behavior that’s deeply rooted in fear and a low self-esteem, that they’re somehow not good enough.
Closely aligned is the need to manipulate their thoughts and actions, this for their own personal gain. This is done by doing or saying things intended to intimidate or coerce, to bully.
Letting go of this will actually allow you to enjoy life more, this by decreasing your stress levels. Realize nothing can or should be controlled in life except your response to it.
• What great minds will do is discuss ideas
• What average minds will do is discuss events
• What small insecure minds will do is judge others
Gossiping is extremely poor behavior, it’s destructive and a complete waste of time.
You may be thinking you don’t gossip since you only say good things about others. The truth being anytime you talk about someone else, whether good or bad, you’re gossiping.
So why not engage in discussion about all your great ideas, your dreams instead.
Your brain can only process one thought at a time, so make sure you think of how great your life can become.
One way of rising above resentment is by holding others in the highest regard. Give them credit and love for whatever they do.
Adopt a mindset of respecting others regardless of who they are, then you’re showing respect to yourself.
Always want more for others than you want for yourself. Congratulate them and thank them for their efforts, especially those who can’t help you whatsoever.
Come from a place of gratitude, providing service to everyone. Tell them you are sorry when appropriate without looking weak.
Realize that this attitude will bring you greater benefits, more than you could ever imagine.
Refine What You Say
Those not engaging in spiteful behavior are thoughtful of the words they speak. What negative words does is emanates a lower energy than does positive words.
Negative nasty mean spirited words or thoughts, have no place in the hearts and heads of the highly evolved.
So engage just in friendly cooperative and kind interaction, which builds up others while benefiting all.
Always consciously track the thoughts of what you think and the words you say. Are they laced with anger and ego.
Anything you say or react to, speaks volumes about your character and how others perceive you.
Stop Competing Start Creating
Anger appears once someone adopts a mindset of competition, and not creation to build a better world for themselves and everyone around them.
Those who compete thinks there always needs to be a winner and a loser.
Even during a simple conversation, they feel they need to compete on who knows more or who’s better.
Competition is often seen as an inferior act. Those who are built on a foundation of love, chooses to act from a place of creation and cooperation.
They’re confident in their beliefs and actions, while understanding and empathizing with others who might disagree.
Always Own It
Those who are angry never take responsibility for their actions. If they’re wrong they’ll never admit it or say they’re sorry. They will just cover their tracks with excuses.
The ill thoughts they feel is often unleashed onto unsuspecting others, in the form of negative comments, rudeness, or cynicism.
Those who rises above this cattiness owns and takes responsibility for their actions. They apologize and will do the right thing for the greater good.
They’ll take personal blame for everything they do, while understanding everyone including themselves, is impacted somehow by what they think or say.