We all want to be more liked, we crave for attention and adoration, to be accepted by how we look and how we act. So if you’re not currently liked by everyone you care about or meet, such as your friends and family, then there are ways how you can improve.
Are you satisfied with just getting along with those around you, and okay with it.
Or do you genuinely want to be liked by them, as a personality, as there is a distinct difference.
All getting along with someone requires is commonality with that person, such as a relative, as both of you agree to tolerate one another.
But when you actually like each other, you subscribe more to the desires of the other person. This even means you’re willing to sacrifice some of your own goals.
If someone genuinely likes you, and the feeling is mutual, it means they have positive thoughts about you and your welfare.
There Are Some Who Don’t Want To Be Liked
They might have a specific job to do which may involve ruffling a few feathers, and making tough decisions, which might cause some people to dislike them.
It might also not be entirely necessary for them to project this antagonism, but they don’t care, they’re just pricks.
Not being particularly liked by others isn’t the end of the world for them, since they’d rather just stand behind their values and ideals.
Being Liked Does Matter
The way you’re generally perceived by others does matter, as it can eventually affect your mental and physical health.
Those who are liked usually have larger social networks, which ultimately gives them more social support once a crisis ever occurs.
When others like you, they’ll go out of their way to help you out when you need a favour, even without you asking.
They’ll cater to your emotional isolation, while giving you assistance in doing something you’re not able to do yourself.
Have A Good Disposition
When around others, be a rewarding presence, decorate the social environment positively by having a good pleasant demeanour on your face.
You’ll just come across as a nicer, a more approachable person when you don’t have a scowl.
Once you do smile, you also actually feel better about yourself internally, which further increases your likeability externally.
Be Genuine And Honest
When you outright lie or put up a fake facade and it’s obvious, what you do is make yourself completely untrustworthy.
Getting caught in a lie or hiding something about yourself, will cause others to be suspicious.
They will avoid you, mistrust you because of the fear of being cheated or entrapped.
Most avoid those who lie, those who gloat, are smug, because they’re afraid they’ll be told something which is completely untrue.
Lies and distortions of the truth are also the elemental substance of gossip.
Stop Talking So Much
The world loves a man who is the strong silent type. So those of you who talk too much, like an afternoon soap opera gossip queen, shut the eff up.
If you decide to gossip to Person A, about Person B, then Person A will automatically think you’ll spread gossip about them to someone else as well, so they avoid you.
To gain the trust of others, you need to prove you can keep secrets and be trusted, and not “accidentally” spill inappropriate or private personal details.
Don’t Brag About Yourself
Try being an underdog as much as possible, as everyone has a passion for anyone who appears at a disadvantage.
Never brag or fabricate the truth about your accomplishments, or your successes, no one cares. All you’re doing is feeding your lame low self-esteem.
There’s really no need to make it all about yourself, or make it overly apparent to everyone around you in every situation, you know everything.
Show Genuine Empathy
At times, sucking up to be loved and adored by everyone gets a bit of a bad rap, because it’s associated with being a phony.
There’s no need to put forward a false front, in the attempts to get others to like you.
But once you show genuine interest in them, you’ll benefit by learning something new or interesting about them, and they in you.
Those who are disliked, don’t even have the courtesy of a hello, or ask how you’re doing, unless there’s something in it for them.
Be A Positive Presence
For all the “Karen’s and Chad’s” out there, they’re extremely difficult to like since they make you feel uncomfortable around them, in their righteousness.
It’s fine on occasion to be a little critical every once in a while, or when it’s appropriate, but there’s a point.
If you constantly and continuously complain and whine about everything, others will just find you unpleasant and annoying.
Stop Being Such A Jerk
Demonstrate you’re dependable and competent enough, without coming across as a complete douche, egomaniac, a know-it-all, or a show off who talks too much.
If someone believes there are certain things which you can bring to the table, they’ll ask you for your advice. Otherwise, don’t make it all about yourself.
Once you prove you’re not completely needy or ignorant, and you can be a helpful person, then you’ll become more likeable.
Act As Mature As Your Age
What television comedies constantly do is pick on, exaggerate, and magnify “social anxiety” situations in people.
They magnify the awkward moments and the immature antics of the socially inept, and do so just to get a laugh.
If you follow a similar depiction of a highly immature goof who doesn’t act their age, grow up. Being 80 and trying to be cute is just sad.
If you are extremely temperamental, just to be the centrepiece “drama queen” in every situation, doing so will make you irritating.
Never Judge Others
Being as critical as possible, will get high ratings on reality TV, but it doesn’t translate to everyday life.
You’re better off to just side with and cheer for the wins and successes of your friends, relatives, and co-workers, hoping they do well.
Ignore all their faults, leave it up to them to figure it out.
Once you show your snarly side, your violent and cutting mean criticism, you become completely unlikable.
Don’t Dwell On The Negative
Over time, some will get so arrogant to the point they completely lose the ability to appreciate others, or show empathy.
Avoid building a reputation of you constantly focusing on the failures of others, but instead pinpoint their stellar qualities instead.
Leave the judgmental criticism to others, and then you’ll be more accepted.
So How Likeable Are You
There are some who are born naturally sweet and lovable, while others need to refine themselves a bit.
Even as adults, we never escape this mentality of being the “bully” that we were in high school, or wanting to be the commander of the room.
Just take the steps required to build up your likeability factor, and soon you’ll benefit from your positive reputation.