There can be a mutual magnetic spark, a fireworks display in the mind, that occurs once meeting someone that you’re attracted to, for the first time. Or it could be reuniting with someone that you’ve previously known, such as someone you went to school with. You’re thinking uggg, another struggling artist, as they’re now literally coming out of the woodwork.
This chemical reaction that occurs, happens before our conscious mind can even realize or comprehend what’s happening, as it’s beyond our senses. What occurs is an act of science, this before saying “Hello, is it me you’re looking for?”
There’s a sense of anxiety that’s suddenly overtaken by anticipation, that’s ultimately overwhelmed by excitement. The heart begins to flutter as the sweat glands activate, this when meeting someone new, such as on an online or blind date.
Then you instinctively lock into that person, but is the feeling mutual, do they like you back? One of the biggest mysteries of human nature remains attraction. Why we’re attracted to certain individuals, while completely turned off by others.
What everyone around you will immediately observe, is this chemical bond before you realize it yourself. What’s ignited are a variety of nonverbal cues, ones that compounds and accelerates, this when there’s a mutual spark.
Spontaneous Increased Eye Contact
What people will instinctively do, is constantly look at, but not stare at people they’re attracted to, while avoid looking at those they don’t like. It’s known that it’s the brain chemical oxytocin, that’s causing this reaction, and the reason for this increased eye contact.
What elevated levels of oxytocin does, is increases mutual eye gaze, which provides a soothing sense of well-being, which invites and increases mutual attraction.
It’s oxytocin that’s also responsible for increased pupil dilation, which indicates interest. The wider that the dilation is, the more attracted that the person feels towards another.
Some knowing this, will purposely dilate their pupils, this to make themselves appear more sensual. There’s a fine line between increased comfortable eye contact and staring, which can then become creepy.
You can increase mutual gaze, by mindfully maintaining eye contact while you slightly turn your head, to momentarily break the gaze. The other person usually won’t perceive your extended gaze as staring, because your head is moving.
What people will often do, is subconsciously touch people that they like. During romantic encounters, what women may do is lightly touch the arm of the person that they are talking to, if there’s interest.
This light glancing touch isn’t an invitation towards a sexual encounter, as all it indicates is that she likes you, even before she realizes it herself.
What guys will do to express mutual respect with another male, is by fist or chest bumping, lightly tap the shoulder, or even hug during sporting events. Men will express their attraction towards women, by lightly engaging in similar playful physical activities.
Another way of showing attraction is preening, such as adjusting a crooked tie, picking lint off clothing, which is a subconscious indication that a person likes you.
Touching is one of the best reveals, if a person is interested in you or not. To test it out, casually, accidentally touch someone, and if they suddenly or abruptly pull away, that person isn’t attracted to you. They don’t like you, or aren’t interested in an intimate relationship.
Body language, it’s orientation is an important indicator that reveals the person you’re talking to, likes you. People will instinctively lean forward towards those they like, while distancing themselves from those they dislike.
This inward leaning forward movement will increase, as rapport increases. So if two people are sitting next to one other and like each other, their heads will simultaneously begin turning towards one other.
Then their shoulders will begin to slowly alter and align. Beyond that, their torsos will begin to turn, as they’re now facing one another, while leaning forward.
“Mirroring” One Other
There’s a subconscious reaction of mirroring someones body position, if you’re attracted to that person. What mirroring does is establishes compatibility, which can also be used to find out if that person likes you or not.
What it does is sends out a signal that you like them, and in return, they’re predisposed to like you back. So once you meet someone that you’re attracted to, begin mirroring their body position.
Then at some point later in the encounter, intentionally alter your body position. If the person begins to mirror you, this within several seconds, then they like you as well.
Placement Of Barriers
If someone is wanting to know you better, they’ll begin removing obstacles that are between the both of you. If they don’t like you, they’ll subconsciously begin placing barriers, objects between you two.
This can often be a physical barrier, such as a newspaper, cup, cushion, phone, or whatever is immediately available. Placing a barrier doesn’t always mean that they don’t like you, however.
It can also mean they’re still not comfortable with you, that rapport has yet to be established. So just observe any physical barriers such as a cup, which potentially indicates if they’re comfortable or not.
If the person that you’re interested in, happens to place some type of obstacle, which is a completely subconscious gesture, what that signals is to stay back, that a bond isn’t established yet.
As the conversation continues, monitor if the person moves the object. If they happen to place it to one side, then they’re removing the uncertainty that they feel, that they’re warming up to you.
What being aware of nonverbal behaviors does, is it allows you to monitor the progress of who you’re with. The mutual rapport that’s building, that lets you know whether a person likes you.
These nonverbal behaviors will predispose the person to like you as well, which opens up the opportunity to develop the relationship under mutual conditions.