These are individuals who are not universally likeable, but yet you are forced to extend an effort towards them in the attempts to be courteous. Often, you are in conversation feeling bored, somewhat perplexed, demeaned, at times angry.
There are some who you just dread running into when you see them, since they, like industrial grade sandpaper, rubs you the wrong way.
They’re their arguments are contrary to everything you say, or are completely asinine.
Once you disagree with them or challenge, they can cower and turn on you or ignore you like a ghost.
The art of attempting to understand unreasonable socially unacceptable people usually provokes certain interpersonal crises which really isn’t your fault,
They usually have nothing to do with you, you don’t like them, and you don’t really care.
The Force Of Confrontation
But when you’re required to deal with these types of disordered individuals, don’t make the classic mistake of attempting to make the relationship or conversation somehow work.
When forced to deal with these odd fellows, avoid jabbing a stick at them, those people who has an obvious personality disorder.
The characteristics where someone has narcissistic or sociopath tenancies. As they say, you can pick your friends but not your relatives.
Interacting with them may make you feel bad about yourself once you walk away from them.
What they’ll often say or do are things which won’t quite sit right with you.
If they feel you think they’re a fraud, they will ignore you or try to bully you, to mask their insecurity.
Their Empty Social Shell
They can offer a charming exterior and delivery, or do or say something nice on occasion, which makes you confused who this broken social chameleon is.
Almost everyone will politely choose to focus on just their good points, while downplaying or dismissing the pathological signs, until it becomes too overwhelming.
Although everyone doesn’t have a full-blown personality disorder, many have traces of them.
They reveal their true nature, which exposes them from time to time, while revealing themselves at the most inopportune times.
What it does is you take a hit on your self-esteem, when being around them.
The Signs Of A Sociopath Personality
• They have a difficult time having a fair conversation. They’ll twist your words or ignore them, giving the impression you’re the one who can’t communicate
• What they do is make subtly jabbing stabs or overtly demeaning comments, stinging sarcasm usually intended to be humour
• They ignore or don’t respect existing social boundaries, while enjoy stepping over them, a;though knowing it’s wrong
• What they’ll rarely do is consider your point of view as accurate as they may be
• They’ll treat your opinion by either ignoring your points, or exploding back when attempting to explain something
• They can be excessively charming and at times appear too good to be true, while you know they have an ulterior motive in mind
Minimizing The Exposure To Any Type Of Pathology
Remain As Logical As Possible
If you need to connect with or reason with these individuals, remain to stay as grounded as possible.
When you pose position “X,” for instance, they’ll usually counteract with position “Y.” So attempting to do so, only works with those who are reasonable.
Those who are sociopaths usually just don’t care, and their response or a lack of one will often just make you more upset.
So it’s best to just keep the communication as fact based as possible, while using minimal details.
Attempting To Change Someone
You at times see certain people in your life who you feel could be different, but they always end up disappointing you.
But then you fall for it again, getting your hopes up as they’ll initially treat you nice, appearing to have turned a new leaf.
Just stop yourself and accept this person for who they really are, which will most likely prove to be a relief.
Focusing In On Their Conversation
One method of avoiding becoming a target of manipulation or demeaning comments, having your words completely twisted, is by saying as little as possible.
Volunteer as little information as possible while getting them to talk about themselves, this since they’re a lot more of an important conversation subject than you are.
Don’t Bother Trying To Get Them On Your Side
Never attempt trying to explain yourself, or try getting them to understand what your saying, or asking them to empathize with your perspective.
Don’t bother trying since they most likely won’t, and don’t care. You’ll most likely just feel worse just for trying.
Creating A Distraction
If you absolutely need to spend time with someone who bothers you, attempt to be around them where there’s some type of a distraction.
Focus on being distracted by watching TV, have the interaction based on some type of activity, or offer to do something which takes you away from they being the main focus.
If you’re not able to do something which absorbs their attention by taking it away from you, the better it is.
Don’t Socialize Around Them
Although it may be tempting to kick back a drink or two around individuals of this type.
It just makes you that much more vulnerable, while exposing you to say or do something which will either make you look or feel bad, or make you a target.
Because They’re A Part Of Your Life
If you hold firm on these tactics while managing to conduct these interactions being as friendly and civil as possible, you then might be able to manage to somehow save the relationship.
Not that you would want to, but in some cases the person is someone who you can’t avoid.
They could an employer or a relative, or someone who’s a permanent key fixture in your life and can’t cut them loose. Then these methods may prove to be effective.