Emotions have a tendency to overrule, to overtake the situational mind to react in ways that it doesn’t or shouldn’t want to. Realize that emotions aren’t either good or bad, but it’s rather how you deal with these outbursts of expression which makes the difference.
So what’s needed is to be mindful of your reactions at all times, while recognizing what they are and knowing how to control them once they erupt. The key becomes not allowing them to control your life, which displays your level of emotional intelligence.
For some, emotions will directly influence the way that you think and behave as if under a spell. So it becomes helpful to anticipate what the upcoming emotional reaction will be, this so you can prepare for the appropriate behavior.
The Emotion Of Anger
What getting easily angry will do, especially if you can’t control it, will force you to manically do things, which will most likely make you feel regret later.
Although there are good points which are motivated by anger, such as individuals gathering in groups to protest an injustice, as these civil rights would never be addressed unless one is angered by a wrong doing.
But far too often, getting mad at yourself or others, angry feelings can often lead to harsh words, violent actions, or making rash decisions which can have consequences.
Whether out of instinct you say something that’s rude to a customer service agent who’s not catering to your needs, or you somehow irate a client who can’t make up their mind, the end result won’t be favorable.
Bursts of sudden anger can at times lead to disaster if you’re not careful. So learn to recognize and control all the warning signs, and then take concessions to calm yourself down, this before you become so angry you’ll be sorry for your actions.
Anxiety Causes Excessive Worry
There are certain things which will trigger you to feel anxious or stressful, events which are beyond your control, which usually isn’t a good use of your minds time.
What these times of distress can do is lead towards unnecessary worrisome thoughts, catastrophic absurd over reactive predictions, and pointless “what if” scenarios.
So rather than chewing your fingernails to the bone, pacing the floor non-stop, instead, turn all of this unproductive worry energy into active problem solving.
Commit yourself to improve on the situation instead, this by taking positive steps to prevent the pending disaster, this instead of idly stewing that something bad is about to happen.
Frustration Leads To Giving Up
Becoming frustrated can easily lead to thoughts such as “I can’t do this,” or “this is too difficult.” What this thinking advances to are feelings of discontent, which just compounds the frustration.
This feeling can then begin to overwhelm you, that you’re a failure, which causes you to put in less effort regarding the task at hand, or you may just give up prematurely.
So stand back and recognize how the current frustration is influencing your performance. When you’re struggling to complete a certain task that’s difficult, take frequent breaks while developing a helpful inner dialogue, which should promote your efforts.
Being Sad Causes You to Withdraw
When you’re feeling down on yourself, this sad feeling can tempt you to isolate yourself and hide from the world. Withdrawing from your friends and family however, can often make the distress even worse.
It takes a special motivation for one to cheer themselves up when feeling a bit blue, as most will just sit on the couch by themselves and munch on a bag of potato chips.
Instead, force yourself to engage with others, drag your sorry butt to the gym, this especially when you don’t feel like doing so, find the motivation to motivate yourself.
There’s a good chance that once you’re around others, doing things that you enjoy, or forcing yourself to go on the treadmill, you’ll feel better by providing a distraction or even comic relief.
Fear Causes Avoidance
Fear is feeling overwhelmingly uncomfortable, and it’s normal to avoid this discomfort. But realize that avoiding anything which causes you to feel afraid, will hold you back from getting what you want. So feel the fear and do it anyways.
Whether it’s the fear of being rejected which prevents you from applying for that new job, or fear prevents you from asking for that date. Instead, be willing and embrace the fear. With practice, what you’ll gain is confidence to overcome what scares you.
Becoming Excited Causes Undue Risk
On the flip side of fear, overconfidence, being overzealous and too cocky can sabotage your end goals. Becoming too excited can become problematic, as you’ll begin to over assume.
Once you become too excited about something, this emotion will cause you to underestimate the real risk, while overestimating the odds of reaching that goal.
Whether you’re tempted to quit your job cold turkey to start a “surefire” business on instinct, or get a loan for a car that you can’t afford, know that cocky confidence can greatly influence your poor decisions.
So take the time to slow down and write down all the pros and the cons on the decision you’re about to make, this so you can evaluate logically, so the over excitement doesn’t lead you astray.
Embarrassment Causes You To Hide
Feeling shame is an extremely powerful emotion which can cause you to take cover. You may try to hide from the mistakes that you’re ashamed of, or try to deflect who you really are.
Stop attempting to keep all the secrets which stems from shame. Be authentic with your true self and be accountable, this despite all the shameful embarrassing feelings which may be exposed.