You can see it in their eyes, those who have found their true calling in life, living their life with purpose and passion, what they’re intended to do. Working and living your life with complete purpose is a process which involves self discovery, an action that the majority never take.
The biggest fear, the biggest question for most is that their path, if the road that they’ve chosen is the right one or not. There’s a certain belief that finding one’s true purpose means establishing a solid career, social mobility, and accumulating wealth.
Even once we do admit that we’re not fulfilled with all of the trappings of life and success, we continue to cling on to these illusions since that’s all that we know.
So here’s a proposition. Perhaps our purpose in life is completely separate from what we’re currently doing for a living. Perhaps this purpose is rather really about discovering who we are, and living as authentic as possible. It’s thought however that the majority won’t be able comprehend this type of perspective.
Establishing A Career Before Finding You’re True Calling
Society has boxed success into a list that we need to check off:
• Make sure that you graduate from school and get post secondary education
• Find a suitable partner, and have kids
• Then put your nose to the grindstone and establish your chosen career
• Hang in there until you retire
What following this road map does is it pushes the masses in the direction of conformity rather than purpose. We then become busy avoiding every self-induced fear such as not being smart enough, attractive enough, creative enough…
Then we find that we then don’t have the time to ask ourselves if we’re truly happy. Realize that finding your true purpose, your calling in life is all about listening to your true inner voice. Allowing your mind to speak back to you, while not telling your life what you’re wanting to do with it.
This calling is usually compulsive and passionate, it can begin as an inkling such as “I would like to try that,” which then turns into something that you can’t rid of.
This calling won’t necessarily be an easy path, and most likely an abstract to what you’re currently doing, which is the reason why most won’t ever realize it. We then get scared of potentially failing, appearing foolish, and the risk that we need to take.
So as a result, we continue to work at our chosen career instead, this since it matches all of the requirements that we’ve been told to “check” off.
Responding To External Instead Internal Forces
We’re taught from a young age to look towards others, our teachers, parents, and mentors for guidance. Social compliance becomes an important part of our childhood.
We comply to how we should be acting in relation to how everyone else is, but the issues begin once you want to extend that process, which includes something such as exposing our life purpose.
The majority of people usually with good intent, will attempt to “slot” you into a hole depending on your aptitude, which makes the most sense. So to gain their approval, to oblige, you willingly slide in. To maintain this approval, you then continuously deny who you really are, you then become a script of someone else’s life.
You Know But Don’t Like Your Deficiencies
This involves your dark side, your dark passenger, and we all have one. The underbelly, the negatives of your personality which you don’t want others to see. These are your deficiencies, your selfishness and your faults. We would just rather flee before anyone else can see this side of us.
But you know that the truth is it’s a part of your life, your troubles. But it’s also what you’ll learn the most from when it comes to your ultimate life’s purpose. When it comes to self-discovery, it’s your darkness that will expose where you need to grow the most.
It shows you where you’re deficient, not good enough, where or who you most need to learn from. It’s also the people that you may dislike, those who usually has the most to teach you about yourself.
Most however will just ignore this, bury this darkness, so instead, what you seek is comfort, warmth, the light, by finding comfortable relationships which will just reinforce your stale boring image and personality.
You Comply To Distraction
We live in a world which doesn’t value silence, but instead craves for action. Living with silence, however, can be dangerous. Without it, you’ll end up believing that what your ego wants is your life’s purpose. It’s known that this usually doesn’t end well.
If you live a life where your ego is in charge of your life, you’re then headed for a breakdown, which then raises the question, “If I have such a great life, then why aren’t I fulfilled?”
What being silent does is it muffles out the noise which creates space for your true authenticity to surface. You can then ask yourself about how your life is going, how work is going, and then wait for an answer. This silence gives your life the time to converge before you get distracted again.
Not Giving Enough Credit To Your Unconscious Mind
To find our true life purpose, what you must do is get comfortable and listen more to the non-logical mind. Get accustomed to not having all of the answers. Begin to tolerate ambiguity while accepting struggle. Deeply feeling rather than thinking your way to a purposeful life, rarely works.
Doing so becomes too difficult for most. Then they’ll always deny, ridicule or scoff at it, justifying themselves to ignore it. This the reason why the majority will continue to live their lives in drab, never realizing their true purpose in life.