Are you that person who glows in the dark because of your charisma. So regardless of where you are, you instantly make others feel attracted to you. You have that twinkle in your eye and a radiant smile, which showcases your ability to make anyone feel special.
Some have that ability, without they ever needing to say a word. They can light up a dull room and will brighten it up, just by their presence.
Yet, there’s no true definition why some are able to project this positive glowing aura, but somehow they do.
Some exude natural charisma while others have no brilliance whatsoever. Being charismatic however, can also suddenly lose its lustre.
For those who possess that special luminous something, they’re effortlessly able to make and instantly maintain great relationships.
How Charismatic Are You – Know The Signs
Those who are charismatic constantly and positively influences everyone around them, making them feel important and completely comfortable.
They’re the life of the party, someone everyone wants to be around, or emulate, and they want to be their friend.
Some claim it’s down to a science, as there are techniques which can heighten your charismatic level and magnetism.
Being charismatic also appears to increase success, improve image while disguising any flaws.
They Give You Their Full Undivided Attention
Those who ooze charisma won’t check their phones every few moments for messages, or look away to see who just walked into the room when conversing with you.
They don’t glance away to look at others, but will give you their full undivided attention and won’t stray, even for a moment.
They give you the gift of their full and complete regard. These are the qualities they posses and are willing to offer you, all which can be learned.
Once you begin refining this technique, doing so will drive people to you, as well as remember you.
Listen More Than You Speak
If you ask them something, they’ll always reply back while maintaining eye contact. They use their full set of emotions: smile, nod, or frown when appropriate.
Responding non-verbally is just as important as responding verbally, as doing so will make you feel completely important.
When you do decide to speak, never offer any type of advice unless you’re strictly asked.
Only Talk When Needed
What listening does is it shows you care more of what someone’s saying, rather than offering advice.
The reason being, because the instance you begin talking, in the majority of cases, you immediately make the conversation about you, and not them.
For instance, once you interrupt and say, “This is what I would do…” you’re suddenly placing the focus on you and not the other person.
So speak only when you have something important you need to say, something that matters to them, and not you.
Don’t Be Selective In Your Hearing
Some individuals are selective on what they want to hear. They’re completely incapable of hearing anything said by someone they feel are insignificant or beneath them.
So there you are talking to someone, expressing your opinion, but as the saying goes, “If a tree falls in a forest, can anyone hear?”
They give you that blank stare and courtesy nod while staring right through you, and you know they’re not listening.
Then you’re left with that isolated feeling there’s no one there to hear you talk.
Charismatic people have extremely acute listening skills, which are focused on what everyone in the room is saying.
They’ll make everyone, regardless of who they are, their stature, their gender, or social status, feel like they want to be heard.
Hear What Others Say
You already know what you know, you have your opinions. You also have your perspectives as well as your own points of view.
All that however isn’t important, since they’re your beliefs and you know what they are. You can’t learn anything more about yourself at that moment.
What you don’t know is what others are thinking or knows. Everyone else, regardless of who they are, knows something you don’t, even one minor detail or perspective.
So when you’re speaking to them, just that fact makes them a lot more interesting than you are, because you can learn something from them.
Give Before You Receive
Never think about what you can get from a situation, but rather focus on what you’re able to provide.
Offering something is one of the best ways to establish a genuine connection and relationship.
Focus, even just for a moment on what you’re able to offer them, then you’ll prove you’re the only person who really matters to them.
Drop That Ego
The only people who may be impressed with your stuffy, smug, pretentious ego, are other stuffy, smug, pretentious egos, who can relate to you.
The rest of the world is not impressed. Your display of narcissism and superiority is annoying, uncomfortable, and a complete turn off.
No one will notice you when you walk inside the room, and they hope you walk out without you talking to them.
Change Your Attitude Change Your Life
The exact words you speak has its greatest impact, when it comes to the attitude of others.
For instance:
• You’re not going to an important business meeting; rather you get to meet with other like minded business people
• You’re not making a new presentation for a client; you’re just sharing valuable information with them
• You don’t “need” to go to the fitness club; you go there to work out and get in better shape
What we’re all wanting is to meet and associate with like minded enthusiastic people.
The attitude you display can make them feel at ease, and more comfortable about themselves.
Don’t Bother To Gossip
Sure, we all at times enjoy hearing a bit of smack talk. We all like to listen to a bit of dirt every once in a while.
The problem is, we don’t always like or necessarily respect the person who is delivering the gossip.
Never talk about other people or don’t laugh at them. Once you do, those around you may be wondering if you’re laughing at them, and not with them.
Always Admit Your Mistakes And Failures
Those who appear successful, are often thought they have an abundance of charisma.
What you’ll notice however, is some of the most successful people, have little to negative charisma.
What you need instead is to be genuine and trustworthy, for you to be charismatic.
So just be as humble as possible by sharing the mistakes you’ve made, admitting to your errors, while laughing at yourself.
People will then laugh with you because of your honesty, and be drawn towards you.