What is true happiness. There are those among us who appears to be absolutely giddy about themselves at all times, regardless of the state of the world out there. Hopefully it’s not just a mask to cover their sadness.
What most are conditioned is to be and look happy, but depending on how the day’s going, we may instantly become upset and frown.
If you lean more towards being unhappy, there are certain traits that will follow you around, despite your circumstances in life or how well it treats you.
Regardless of how happy we genuinely are, we all still have our bad days which plagues us down.
When we’re not happy, its varying degrees usually fits into several categories.
What most unhappy people think is to achieve anything in life, to get anywhere worthwhile it needs to be a struggle.
For those chronically happy people, they find ways to overcome these struggles and circumstances as they understand life can be difficult.
The Happiness Formula?
It comes down to their attitude on how happy people treat the same experiences. They treat these experiences as lessons and not feel like victims like sad people do.
What they do is take full accountability on how they ended up in the mess they’re in, and will take immediate steps to fix it.
It’s more about perseverance and reconstruction rather than complaining or feeling sorry for themselves and their circumstances.
Those who are not that happy will see the same situation as if they’re victimized, carry that “woe is me” attitude, sulk and don’t bother finding a solution.
Find Difficulty Trusting Others
Those who are happy will give the benefit of the doubt to others by giving them their trust. They’ll look at the good in people rather than assuming everyone’s wanting to cheat or lie to them.
Happy people are generally more open and friendly towards new people they meet, fostering a sense of community and friendship around them.
Unhappy people have difficulty trusting or feeling comfortable around those they don’t know, assuming they’re sinister strangers out to swindle them.
This attitude narrows their social network, thwarting any opportunity to meet new people and make new friends.
We all know there are bad things and bad people out there in this world we need to be cautious of. Bad things happen to good people.
What’s “Wrong” Instead Of What’s “Right”
Unhappy people choose to ignore what’s good, but will instead dwell more on things that are bad or wrong.
You can instantly spot those who are chronically unhappy in a crowd of people, or at the dinner table by how they react.
They’re the ones constantly complaining, while responding to anything that’s positive with skepticism such as “yeah, but.”
Those who are happy are more connected with global issues, have better judgment on what’s right, wrong or bad.
They view and envelope the world with eyes wide open.
Happy people know the world has issues, so they just focus on the good, as they know they most likely can’t do anything about the bad anyways.
You Compare Yourself And Become Jealous
Those who are unhappy think if someone has good fortune, they won’t get any themselves since they believe it’s in limited supply.
They think there’s not enough “good” in the world to spread around, and they’ll be left out.
What unhappy people will do is constantly compare and compete against others, on what they have or what they want.
What this leads to is resentment and jealousy.
Happy people know good luck is abundant and based on their efforts and achievement.
They believe there’s a certain blueprint that can be duplicated by anyone who wants to.
Those who are happy don’t believe in competition and think there are unlimited opportunities for everyone.
They don’t think that the good fortune of others will limit their own potential outcome in life.
Constantly Wanting To Control Things
There’s a difference between having control over your life, and striving to achieve goals. Those who are happy will constantly take steps on a daily basis to reach their personal goals.
They also realize they have little control over what life throws their way.
Unhappy people will constantly attempt to micromanage their efforts by trying to control the outcome of others. They can get dramatic while becoming disappointed, once life screws with their plans.
Happy people are more focused, always on the ready and willing to go with the flow and not fall apart, when life chooses to throw unexpected curve balls.
The key is to be goal oriented, while allowing room for any unexpected twists of life to happen, and be ready if their best laid plans go bad.
Happy people know life has twists and turns, so they’re ready to settle for “Plan B” if needed.
It’s All About Fear And Worry
There’s just so much you can do during the day, so you need to filter what you choose to think. Unhappy people choose to fill their brain with doom and gloom, instead of what could go right.
Happy people will allow themselves to daydream on how life will positively unfold in front of them.
Unhappy people will choose to fill their head with worry and fear.
If someone who’s happy feels fear and worry, they’ll ask themselves if there’s anything they could do about it. If there’s any type of action they could take, to alleviate or prevent this fear from happening.
If there’s nothing they can do, if they realize they’re just expending their energy aimlessly, they’ll just ignore it and let it go, then move on.
Conversations Involve Gossiping And Complaining
Those who are unhappy will live their life in the past. The “bad” things that happened to them while dwelling on life’s hardships.
Once they run out of things to complain about, they’ll then turn their attention to gossiping about the lives of others.
Those who are happy, will spend their time in the here and now, while daydreaming about their future.
Without a word spoken, you can instantly sense their positive vibes.
They’re constantly excited about something they’re working on to make their life or the lives of others better.
They choose to help others whenever they can, while being grateful for what they have.
Unhappy people dwell on “what’s in it for me.”