What your face and body does is sends out subliminal messages to others before a word is spoken, regarding your mood, whether you like them or not, all while displaying your aura. What your body language does, is invites or scares them away.
The key becomes learning the reasons why you make these physical statements, and what you can do about it.
Without saying a single word, what others once they meet you, will instantly do is evaluate the type of person you are, who you are.
This includes getting a fairly good read, on what you may be thinking or feeling, all within seconds, all subconsciously.
My Body My Mood
These cues are picked up by others observing how your body contorts, the messages you send out by your body gestures.
Some experts claim, just 7% percent of our message to others, is communicated by the words we speak.
The remainder, is conveyed through body language, tone of voice, and our facial expression.
Non-Verbal Communication
When we were infants, all we could do was send out non-verbal messages on how we were feeling, through posture, gestures, and crying.
Babies before learning to talk, the only way to monitor them was by visually observing their behaviour.
Listening to their tone of gurgles for clues, attempting to decipher what type of mood they’re in, what they’re trying to communicate.
Body Say What
What people always react to first is body language, including your tone of voice along with your facial expressions and the vibe you give out.
So you need to learn what type of message you’re sending out to others, by controlling your gestures.
Does your body language encourage someone to approach you, or are you subconsciously warning them off.
Become mindful of knowing how you stand or sit, when you initially meet someone.
What are you doing with your hands, where are you looking during conversations with them.
Does your face express interest towards someone you’re talking to, or does your eyes dart aimlessly while blinking constantly.
Know Your Presence
Realize how others are interpreting your posture, when you’re sitting or standing, such as crossing your arms across your chest.
What most don’t realize, is your arms crossed in front of you, is a subconscious signal you don’t want to be approached.
Most will then subconsciously pick up on this cue, and will avoid you because of this posture.
If you stand awkwardly with your head slumped forward, your shoulders drooping, and your eyes avoiding everyone, others will likely decide you lack confidence.
They may suspect trying to start a conversation with you, will be an awkward boring experience.
When you fidget or are stiff as a board tense, what you’re projecting is you’re not a confident lively fun person.
That you’re not alert, and have no interest in the people around you. It appears you’d rather be somewhere else.
Regardless of how desperate you want someone to come over and befriend you, if your body language projects awkwardness, no one will attempt to approach you.
Understand Your Body Language
There are certain body language signals, which forces others to avoid you like the plague.
There are also warm invitation signals, that will encourage someone to come forward and approach you.
What you can do is appear a lot more inviting, once you adopt mindful body language, that’s open and non-threatening.
Whether you’re sitting or standing, aim for a posture that’s upright and attentive, relaxed and openly loose. If you notice your chest or shoulders are slumping, straighten up.
Calm Down And Relax
Become aware of the way you’re breathing. Does your breathing move in and out of your chest smoothly, or is it jerky with gasping stops and starts.
If you notice you’re holding your breath, or breathing shallow, that’s a sign of anxiety that’s picked up by others.
Rapid breathing, means you have to breathe more often, which increases your appearance of being nervous.
Consciously, tell all the muscles in your body to relax. Use your abdomen, to help you breathe smoothly and deeply.
Allow the bottom part of your lungs, to fill up with air before breathing out.
Know Your Body Gestures
Know what you’re doing with your hands. Once getting nervous in social situations, what you do with them always feels like the wrong thing.
Then the first instinct is to cross your arms, since you have no idea what to do with them.
The best way to look friendly, open and approachable, is by loosely keeping your arms at your sides, or casually placing one hand in your pocket, appearing relaxed and at ease.
If you need to hold something in one hand, then keep that hand at the side of your body and not in front of you.
What holding that arm in front of your body does, is sends a signal you’re wanting to defend yourself somehow, which appears like a hostile gesture to others.
Be Aware Of Your Surroundings
Always remain aware and mindful, focused on your immediate surroundings and the people around you.
Stay calm, remain erect and relaxed, appearing like you’re an interesting approachable person.
Once you find yourself tuning out your surroundings, what happens is you begin focusing too much on your negative inner sensations and thoughts.
This can quickly elevate your anxiety, and everyone around you will sense it immediately.
One of the biggest reasons, whether someone will approach you or not, is your facial expression. In most cases, a gentle pleasant inviting smile, is all you need.
Know a forced smile appears uncomfortable, creepy and nervous. Always illuminate your warm inviting eyes while never staring, which shows everyone you’re friendly and sociable.