There are those who are toxic among us, hiding in the weeds waiting to prey on your sensitivities like a plague. They’re around everywhere and are considered the downside of the human condition. We all know one or several of them, we try to avoid them at all costs.
We are usually associated with them as relatives, someone you work with, or you may know them socially. If you’ve ever encountered or are required to spend time with them, then you know exactly how exhausting and destructive that they can be.
Like any other type of toxic substance, what you need is to limit your exposure to them, keeping yourself protected and immune. What’s more important is learning to identify one. Unfortunately, these individuals don’t come stamped with a warning label.
What our current lifestyle has conditioned us to do is look out for ourselves first. Me, myself, and I. No one else matters and why should they.
What we live in is a world of excess, being greedy, win at all costs, to beg, cheat, and steal to get what we want. That we should get more, earn more, this regardless of what it takes it get it.
In this me first society, all this ambition and desire to win at all costs, is rarely a good thing. It’s found that those who are toxic constantly act this way, they’ll do anything to get what they want.
Their drive is insatiable. They cross the line on what they want, what’s theirs, and what’s not theirs. Once they get something that they want, they’ll horde it, which then consumes their life.
Lack Of Character
There are those who lacks complete integrity, are rarely honest with others and more importantly themselves. They’ll manipulate everyone for their own gain or recognition, lie obsessively without morals.
These characteristics are also normal and routine for them, and there’s very little that gets in their way. If they think that you’re an obstacle or a threat to them, they’ll come after you and attempt to destroy you.
“A” For Arrogance
There is a distinct difference, a gap between someone who’s confident, arrogant, or narcissistic. What being confident does is it inspires others, while someone who’s arrogant will often try to intimidate you.
Those who are arrogant always appears to know it all, believe that they’re never wrong, think they’re more superior than others. They’ll never acknowledge you, or your wins, or pump up your confidence, this because it interferes and undermines with their presence.
Play The Victim Card
Lethally toxic people always play the “victim” card. What they do is look at their issues, the mistakes that they’ve made, and without fail will always find others to blame. It’s never their fault.
The cause could be because an overbearing unreasonable boss, unloving parents, an unresponsive partner, or a disloyal friend. What they’ll never do is take ownership or responsibility for their own actions.
Those who like to control others also think they know it all, along with genuinely believing that they know the best way of doing anything and everything. If they’re confronted, they’ll get upset.
This stems from they being extremely insecure, feeling inadequate among their peers. As long as they’re around, what you’ll never get is an opportunity to voice your opinion, ideas, or decide anything yourself.
Those Who Gossip
Those who constantly gossip genuinely think that they’re having a deep meaningful conversation with or about someone, whether truthful or not, that they’re exchanging useful information.
They do so in the attempts to elevate themselves beyond their insecurities, and they don’t care who or what they speak about, whether it’s speculation or fact. There’s nothing more destructive that a human who spreads gossip.
They’re Always Judgmental
There’s a distinction between making accurate judgments and being judgmental. Judgments are purely objective, which are based on discernment. Being judgmental is just pure criticism about someone or their actions.
Those who are judgmental are always quick to generalize, to jump to convenient conclusions. They’re extremely poor listeners while failing to communicate effectively.
Constantly Telling Lies
As long as civilization exists, there will always be someone who’ll be telling a lie about someone or something. Although everyone on occasion will tell a fib, it’s usually for good intentions.
Then there are those who are chronic liars, and they’re toxic because after while, you have no idea what to believe. You can’t count on them, their promises, what they say or do. They’ll directly tell you flat out lies to your face about others, then tell lies to others about you.
Envy And Jealousy
Those who happen to be plagued with jealousy are rarely happy with what they do, or what they have. They’re never happy for you if you ever have success, if anything good ever happens to you.
What they can’t appreciate or stomach is when others achieve something, or move ahead of them in life somehow. They think that if anything good is about to happen, it should be them.
They’re Always Negative
You most likely know someone who’s constantly negative, all they see is the bad side of things. They’re always resentful and chronically angry or pessimistic for whatever reason.
They’re always suspicious of everything and can’t trust anyone. What constant negativity can do is destroy relationships, as spending time with anyone who’s that way makes you feel like they’re sucking the energy right out of you.
If any of this sound familiar to you, then unfortunately you’re exposed to someone who has a toxic personality. Take action by avoiding them and if that fails, keep your distance while guarding yourself the best you can.