There are certain people in this world who are toxic. They hide in the cubicles of life, waiting to prey on your sensitivities like the plague. They’re around everywhere and are considered the downside of the human condition. We all know one or several of them, and we try to avoid them.
We are usually associated with them as relatives, someone you work with, or you may know them socially.
If you’ve ever encountered or are required to spend time with them, you know exactly how exhausting and destructive they can be.
Like any other type of toxic substance, what you need is to limit your exposure to them, keeping yourself protected and immune.
What’s more important is learning to identify one. Unfortunately, these individuals don’t come stamped with a warning label.
What our current lifestyle has conditioned us is to look out for ourselves first. Me, myself, and I. No one else matters and why should they.
What we live in is a world of excess, being greedy, win at all costs. To beg, cheat, and steal to get what we want. We just want more, regardless of what it takes to get it.
In this me first society of entitlement, all this ambition and desire to win at all costs, is not a good thing.
It’s found those who are considered toxic constantly act this way, they’ll do anything to get what they want. Their drive can be insatiable.
They will cross the line to accomplish their goal, whether it’s ethical or not. Once they get it, they’ll horde it, which consumes their life.
Lack Of Character And Morals
Toxic people can lack complete integrity, are rarely honest with others, and more importantly lie to themselves or those closest to them.
They’ll manipulate everyone in their matrix for their own gain or recognition. They lie obsessively without morals.
These characteristics are also normal and routine for them, and there’s very little that gets in their way.
If they think you’re an obstacle or a threat to them, they’ll come after you and attempt to eliminate you.
“A” For Arrogance
There is a distinct difference, a gap between someone who’s confident, someone who’s arrogant, and someone who’s narcissistic.
What being confident does is it inspires others. Someone who’s arrogant will often try to intimidate you.
Those who are narcissistic always appears to know it all, believe they’re never wrong, they think they’re more superior than you.
They’ll never acknowledge you or your wins, or pump up your confidence, because it interferes and undermines their presence.
Play The Victim Card
Toxic people usually play the “victim” card. What they do is look at their issues, the mistakes they’ve made, and without fail will always blame others. It’s never their fault.
The cause could be because an overbearing unreasonable boss, unloving parents, an unresponsive partner, or a disloyal friend.
What they’ll never do is take ownership or responsibility for their own actions.
Those Who Are Control Freaks
Those who like to control others also think they know it all, along with genuinely believing they know the best way of doing anything and everything. If they’re confronted, they’ll get upset.
This stems from they being extremely insecure with low self-esteem, feeling inadequate among their peers.
If there are toxic people around you, what you’ll never get is an opportunity to voice your opinion, ideas, or decide anything yourself.
Those Who Gossip
Those who constantly gossip, believe they’re having a deep meaningful conversation. Regardless if the gossip is true or not, they think they’re exchanging useful information.
They do so in the attempts to elevate themselves beyond their insecurities.
What they don’t care about is who or what they talk about, whether it’s rumour or fact. There’s nothing more destructive than a human who spreads gossip.
They’re Always Judgmental
There’s a distinction between making accurate judgments and being judgmental. Judgments are purely objective, which are based on discernment.
Being judgmental is just pure criticism about someone or their actions.
Those who are judgmental are always quick to generalize, to jump to convenient conclusions. They’re extremely poor listeners while failing to communicate effectively.
Constantly Telling Lies
As long as civilization exists, there will always be someone who’ll be telling a lie about someone or something. Although everyone on occasion will tell a fib, it’s usually for good intentions.
Then there are those who are chronic liars, and they’re toxic because after while, you have no idea what to believe. You can’t count on them, their promises, what they say or do.
They’ll directly tell you flat out lies to your face about others, then tell lies to others about you.
Envy And Jealousy
Those who happen to be plagued with jealousy are rarely happy with what they do, or what they have. They’re never happy for you if you ever have success, if anything good ever happens to you.
What they can’t appreciate or stomach is when others achieve something, or moves ahead of them in life somehow.
They genuinely think if anything good is about to happen, it should be them.
They’re Always Negative
You most likely know someone who’s constantly negative, as all they see is the downside of things. They’re always resentful and chronically angry or pessimistic for whatever reason.
They’re always suspicious of everything and can’t trust anyone.
What constant negativity can do is destroy relationships, as spending time with anyone who’s that way makes you feel they’re sucking the energy right out of you.
If any of this sounds familiar to you, then unfortunately you’re exposed to someone who has a toxic personality.
Take action by avoiding them and if that fails, keep your distance while guarding yourself the best you can.