Melting down means experiencing exhaustion, the motivation dwindles, a loss of interest in something you were once completely engaged in. These meltdowns are usually associated with working environments, but can extend into relationships as well.
Who ever said we need to be with someone forever. Our candlesticks burn at different speeds, such as attitudes and ambitions, and if there’s no longer a common ground of compatibility. Why then bother with the pain or the boredom of clinging on to a love.
At work, melting down will usually occur once you begin to feel that you’re working too hard, or the work is too mundane or doesn’t pay enough. What this continues into is a growing state which eventually reaches a burnout degree of apathy.
Once you begin to feel that you’re working as hard as you can while spinning your wheels sideways, then feelings of frustration, exhaustion, and pessimism sets in.
The Romance Flickers
This can easily happen in our personal lives as well. You married who? Romantic relationships, especially when it’s on the slippery decline, can become as demanding and stressful as that mundane job.
If there’s effort needed to make the relationship work but it’s still failing, then the period of being single which follows is often riddled with signs of a meltdown. So the key becomes stopping it before it happens.
Dating Sounds Drastic
Some can’t wait to get back dating, the rebound syndrome, this right after a breakup, they want to get back on the love pony. Then there are others who feel indifferent or ambivalent towards dating, this long after a breakup.
They’re both relatively positive and natural reactions to being single again. Some will also experience a strong negative reaction when it comes to the idea of dating, this for an extended period of time, which is an indicator of relationship burnout.
No Enjoyment Meeting New People
What most find is that actively seeking dates, such as joining online dating sites can be a stressful process, as is meeting someone for the first time in real life, like a blind date.
What would you do if you met someone that you’d normally be interested in, this through a friend or from work, and it doesn’t get your your pulse racing. If you feel this way, then you’re a far distance away from starting a new relationship.
Your Emotional Energy Is Drained
What most will feel is physically famished after a breakup, this especially if there was the task of moving apart and dividing things. There’s also an extended type of exhaustion which indicates relationship burnout, and that’s a lack of emotional energy.
If you’re finding it extremely difficult to have any type of emotional reaction to anything, even just small positive things like a joke or a smiling child or a puppy, your emotional reserves may be literally in meltdown mode.
You Just Remember The Pain
Once someone leaves a job for a better opportunity, or they’ve become enthused regarding a new project, they’ll tend to holistically remember the previous job, the good and the bad.
If someone happens to quit a job because they were burnt out, what they’ll remember is just the overwhelming and dreadful days the most. After your breakup, if all you remember are just the fights you’ve had and nothing else, the negative energy is still with you.
You Become Pessimistic About Love
What you imagine is that once you get into another relationship, that it’s doomed to fail. You find yourself thinking that the concept of love stinks and is flawed, calling it a prelude to pain.
You secretly believe that those who are in love are fools living in a fairy tale of disaster. This disillusionment when it comes to the ideology of love, is the consequences and residue of relationship burnout.
To Repair And Renew Hope
If you have any of these signs, then you may need to recognize the degree of relationship meltdown in your life. There are things that you can do to make your life easier while moving on.
Make Sense Of The Previous Relationship
What you’ll eventually do is look back into the relationship, see its flaws, and realize the lessons that it taught you. The relationship, regardless of how bad, will eventually become past history and station itself as a meaningful lesson in your life.
Eventually, you’ll feel that the breakup made you stronger, that it taught you more about compatibility, and know what to look for next time. Understand these lessons first before preparing for your next romance.
Be Candid With Potential Partners
If you’re not yet ready to get into another relationship, then you’re not ready. Even if someone fabulous comes along, the chances are it won’t turn out to be eternal love if you’re still feeling relationship meltdown.
Instead, just have fun, and be up front with them, by clearly stating that you’re not looking for anything serious right now.
It’s Okay Not To Be Interested
Most after a breakup will feel pressure to “Get back into the game.” But if you genuinely have no interest, it frightens you to be in another relationship so quick, just give yourself permission to be alone.
This is your intuition telling you that you need to be by yourself right now, that you need to reconnect with what you want.
Find New Interests
If you’re going to disconnect, disengage from the relationship scene for a while, then make sure that you develop new passions and interests in your life.
Decide what you’ve been longing to do. What gives you that new spark of energy that’s been missing. Now is the time to follow these pursuits, and with time, will draw you out of your circumstances.