How To Transform Your Emotions After They Become Bad Habits

creating new habitsWhat some defect to is getting angry, becoming upset at themselves and everyone else around them. Even before realizing that they’re becoming sad, or mad, they just eat or drink too much, then they begin to feel despondent.

The reason for this is the culmination from years of negative conditioning, realizing that you’re ashamed, as you habitually seek instant gratification through passive aggression. Once you become aware of this, there are steps to take, this to reduce the anger, while increasing self-esteem.

To improve your long term outlook, what you need is emotional resuscitation. Once we reach adulthood, every action that we take is a preconditioned response, this on autopilot.

We feel and respond the same way once certain events happen to us in our lives, which triggers the same physiological and mental states of mind.

Our Emotions Motivate Behavior
What our emotions does is motivates us. What they do is prepares us to do certain things by sending assigned chemical signals to the cells, muscles, and organs. Once you activate your emotions, you’re motivated to take action, this regardless if you want to or not.

The emotions which inspires our troublesome behavior are those which makes us become devalued and vulnerable, such as feeling anxiety, shame, or guilt.

In response, we attempt to feel empowered by devaluing others, this by showing envy, resentment, or jealousy. What can also result is overworking, overeating, or drinking too much.

Our emotional energy then becomes weakened and narrow. We become nervous and bitter, as we struggle to maintain our enjoyment of life. We then allow others to control how we feel, as they push all our emotional “hot” buttons.

How Emotional Responses Turn Into Habits
What’s easy to form is a habit, and all we do is act on these conditioned emotions, and do so repeatedly. Habits are something that becomes automatic to us, without needing to think about it.

You automatically reach for your smartphone whenever you feel anxiety. Overeat, drink, or smoke too much once feeling tense or sad, or devalue someone once you feel upset or angry.

What the brain loves are habits, this because what they do is conserve mental energy. The difference between responding to a habit and a similar behavior that’s consciously decided, are millions of multi-firing neurons.

Once a habit becomes formed in the brain, they can only be changed by replacing them with a different habit, this to fill the void.

How To Change Habits
Since habits become mentally efficient, what they do is dominate our behavior when under stress, or whenever our physical resources become depleted.

That’s why it becomes difficult to make any changes that lasts very long. Once you become tired, distracted, or stressed out, the old habits then return.

The clinical approach when it comes to changing habits, is by practicing new behaviors once the conditioned emotional response occurs. So rather than overeating or drinking too much, this when you’re upset, practice meditation or go out for a run instead.

What it takes is ongoing conscious effort, along with willpower to override any habit you want to rid of. Willpower however is easily exhaustible when it comes to our mental resources.

The reason why this determination is difficult to sustain, is because once our physical resources become low, or our distractions become too high, we just surrender to the pressure.

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The Activation Of Emotions
Our emotions originate from the most primitive region of the brain, which is able to instantly process thought within a split second.

Even the slowest of emotions can occur infinitely quick, and the reason why you have no idea why you’re suddenly feeling ashamed, pathetic, or angry.

By the time that you realize you’re feeling angry, you may have already cursed someone, this at least in your mind. Before you realize that you’re sad, you’re motivated to overeat or drink too much.

Before you know that you’re feeling vulnerable, what you’re motivated is to deny, blame, or avoid the facts. Before knowing you’re feeling ashamed, you’re motivated to seek quick adrenaline, this through active or passive aggression.

That’s why Mr. Hyde fails to remember what Dr. Jekyll learned in anger management class. This is why you don’t bother to eat a banana until you’ve eaten the cake first.

When you become emotionally aware, is when you’re more likely to recall what you’ve learned, this when you were calm and thinking clearly.

Changing Habits Requires Altering Emotions
Reconditioning our emotions is associating our devalued thoughts, with those which raises value in ourselves, along with others.

What valuing emotions does is it strengthens the emotional response, making them more flexible, offering a wider range of experiences. Once this association is conditioned, the occurrence of a devaluing emotion then automatically stimulates valued emotions.

What doing so takes is practice, doing emotional push ups, this while reconditioning the emotions. What repeating these emotional exercises does is builds conditioned responses which moves you from an automatic devalued state, to feeling valued.

Physical Tolls On Emotion
Reconditioning appears as physical signs on the body. Physical changes will occur more quicker than the awareness of change in emotion. What this enables is they being able to forge new emotional associations, which are usually subconscious.

So before you begin to knowingly feel anger, what you’ll attempt is to take the effort of making the situation better. Or before you begin to overeat or have another drink, you’ll instead notice something to appreciate, or make an attempt to connect with someone.

Before you realize that you’re beginning to feel nervous, instead, you’ll begin to appreciate, improve, protect, or consolidate better with the situation. Then the habit has been transformed.

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