Some just come across as being smug and narcissistic, but are they really any better than you, the consensus being they’re not. It’s their condescending attitude, the air of arrogance they project, assuming they’re simply just more superior than you or anyone else.
The reason its found, is they’re usually masking low self-esteem issues, and don’t even realize it.
There’s no one definition why some come across this way, as the superiority they project doesn’t justify or make them very likeable.
Only they know the reasons why they display this behaviour, why they feel this entitlement.
I’m Better Than You
They believe they’re just better than most others out there, you and I are mere mortals.
What they perceive is they have superior social status, looks or personality, which plays a key role in they thinking this way.
But most are born in the same environment, the same economic welfare, the same level of human values, so they’re not much different.
What they do is attempt to turn blood into stone, as they ignore any form of empathy or gratitude, severing ties.
They’ve perhaps struck gold or may have become wealthy, but what they can’t escape is their roots.
As they grow older, they express their sense of privilege, thinking they deserve specialized treatment.
Where It All Begin
When did this feeling of superiority, thinking they’re better than others begin. At what point in their lives was it activated. What was the trigger.
At school, what we do is form friendships, and along with that comes the inevitable “tags” which develops around our group of friends.
What also develops is the tendency to treat some as “outsiders” from this friendship group, branding them as being inferior to them, even if the divisions are arbitrary.
If their work colleagues happen to live in the wrong neighbourhood, they may see and treat them as being inferior to them.
Although there’s no rationale for this, what they do is begin developing a “tribe” mentality, one they find difficult to shake off.
With these feelings of superiority, they find it important to distinguish and separate themselves from those who are different.
The Arrogant Divide
They classify themselves as being better based on just visual clues, especially if they’re more attractive than you, all generalized assumptions.
They’ll instant judge others as being inferior because of how they appear, or of a certain ethnicity.
What they’ll do is fuel this superiority by engaging in conspicuous consumption, flaunting, needing to have an admiring and envious audience, showing them they are better.
Dealing With Those Who Feel Entitled
Don’t Agree With Their Act
For those who feel superior, what they want is for you to agree with them at all times, making you think you’re inferior to them.
There’s no point in granting this to them since it’s hollow, because all you’re doing is reinforcing the notion there’s a divide, making them believe they actually are superior.
Instead, don’t respond, ignore their attempts to provoke or impress you, even if they get angry, which is their weapon.
This includes not complimenting them on their expensive car, designer duds, or the top of the line smartphone. Don’t stroke their ego any further.
Just avoid the traps, learn to turn your back to their flaunting display of their status, then they’ll begin taking less pleasure at showing them off.
Know Where The Entitlement Comes From
It’s known despite all of their accomplishments, those who feel they are better than you, harbour deep feelings of low self-esteem and insecurity.
They need to constantly prove to themselves and others they’re better than you, over and over again until nauseam.
They can’t help but talk obsessively about how great they are, in grandeur terms, while appearing to be putting you down, for a lack of refinement or accomplishments, which becomes annoying.
Those who have empathy wouldn’t feel the need to point out how accomplished they are, that they know everything and have everything, while openly implying, criticizing you and others.
Avoid Acting Inferior
Never be drawn into their web of making you feel inferior. They’ll attempt to lure you down this path by they flaunting and flashing.
The first words that usually comes out of their mouth is “I” or “me,” in their daily quest to remind you they’re better.
There’s also no point attempting to emulate them, or comply with their fake higher status and footprint they exclaim.
Take More Pride In Yourself
Realize they may not even be trying to come across this way, they just appear to be arrogant without even realizing it.
If you’re beginning to make changes, sacrifices, in the attempts to keep up with them, all you’re doing is burying yourself deeper into emotional debt.
The biggest trap, the reason why you do so is because it triggers the feelings of envy and inadequacy within you.
Instead, take more pride in the qualities you have as an individual, then you’ll begin feeling less of a target.
Once this is avoided, by not allowing yourself to be drawn into their trap, you won’t feel as threatened and the envy won’t materialize.
Separating The Present From The Past
Those who has been treated as being inferior will often take their past insecurities, and project them to their current life.
So someone who appears to be acting superior, may actually have no intention of doing so.
What the situation activates are your own past experiences when you felt inferior, usually stemming from your childhood.
The envy you feel is a carryover rather than what’s happening in the present moment.
Once you realize there’s no reason to feel inferior to anyone, then you’ll no longer feel they’re better than you.