There’s a battle of ego going on between the introverts and the extroverts, which predisposes them to dislike one another. This occurs once you meet someone for the first time and initially think, “Wow, I really don’t like you that much, I don’t know why and I don’t care.”
The reason being you could have an introverted personality, and the person you’ve just met is a polar outgoing extrovert.
What introverts generally tend to think is extroverts are arrogant, narcissistic, cocky, and just too loud and pushy.
What extroverts think is introverts are nerdy, socially insecure inept bookworm geeks.
This is a natural almost subconscious reaction once two people gauge one other for the very first time, who are opposite personalities.
These reactions serve as a filter, a human shield, often referred to as making a first impression.
This initial reaction will usually cloud judgment on what the person’s future words, actions and relationship with each another are.
Why I Like You Long Time
What most will do is associate and like people who’s similar to them in personality, who shares similar perspectives on life and attitude, as they have compatibility and chemistry.
Since introverts and extroverts have polar viewpoints when it comes to the world and themselves, they view and think of each other as being different.
As a result, they are naturally opposed to liking one other much, especially if they’re siblings.
Completely Different Worlds
What extroverts are inclined to do is focus on the outside world as it happens, while introverts will remain forever introspective on almost everything.
What introverts will do is insert a safety filter between themselves and the outside events of the world.
Extroverts generate energy off the exuberance of others, while introverts will self generate energy from within.
Energy Storage
What introverts will do is begin their day with a fully charged “social” battery bank. With each social interaction they have during the day, this battery begins to drain out.
Once the battery is low, introverts become exhausted and will withdrawal themselves from life to recharge themselves.
Extroverts on the other hand, since they generate energy off of others, like social vampires, their batteries are constantly being recharged based on their human interactions.
This is most apparent at a party, socially, or in work related situations, as they ramp it up on a Friday night.
The introverts may initially appear to be having a good time, but will eventually begin to withdraw, once the social vampires begin to suck the energy out of them and the room.
You’re Not Like Me
What these differences in viewpoints does is causes social discomfort, and a polar conflict, and reasons to dislike one another.
Introverts won’t outwardly express what they’re feeling, while the extrovert becomes frustrated because of it.
As the angst builds up and reaches a boiling point, they may suddenly get irate with one another regarding all their past transgressions.
The introvert gets caught off guard wondering what the problem is, as they fight back.
Frustration Boils Over
The reason there’s conflict is because of their contrary thinking. Introverts will think before they speak, not understanding how anyone could do anything different.
What extroverts will do is often finish the introverts sentences, since they appear to have difficulty expressing themselves.
Introverts are introspective, which forces them to pause, talk slower, which frustrates the extrovert.
Extroverts will view the pause as confusion or indecision, and will often finish off their thoughts while taking over the conversation.
This leaves the introvert frustrated and annoyed, as what they’re wanting to say goes unheard.
Reacts More On Impulse
Extroverts are completely spontaneous. If they’re wanting to buy something, they’ll just go ahead and buy it without thinking if they can even afford it.
If they’re wanting to do something, they’ll just jump in and do it without thinking of the consequences.
Introverts plan ahead by doing research on the items they’re wanting to buy, or the things they want to do.
The extrovert’s sporadic methods completely frustrates them.
Can First Impressions Be Cured By A Second Look
Changing initial impressions are a difficult thing to do. Someone who forms a negative impression, are usually reluctant to change them, because of their previous judgment.
Then they’ll avoid that person, want nothing to do with them unless they’re a relative or a coworker.
The person who’s been judged negatively, usually won’t have the opportunity to change the mindset of the person who didn’t like them.
Once a first impression is formed, most are reluctant to change their minds because of the psychological principle of they needing to be consistent, or are just stubborn.
Once a person happens to articulate an idea, they’re not likely to change it because they first need to admit they made a mistake, that they judged someone wrong.
To maintain the erroneous judgment they may have made, that initial negative impression causes less anxiety than admitting they’ve made a mistake, or adopting a different opinion.
Can’t We Just Get Along
You know who you are, either an aloof introvert or an annoying outgoing extrovert. Where most fall is somewhere in between.
We need to know which personality we’ve inherited, and strive to condition ourselves to adopt the traits of both, to become a complete person.
There’s really no reason why if someone appears arrogant or nerdish, you should avoid them. The solution is to adjust your perspective, to foster a better relationship.
If these two personalities ever decide to form a mutual relationship, and there’s effort placed on complementing their differences, then they can conquer the world together.
What they’ll form is a strong full circle bond of unity, where the gaps in their personalities combine, then the fireworks begin.